Greetings to all, in this beautiful Ladies of Hive Community. Heeding the call of this contest number 162, today I return to participate. Here I share this week's invitation.
This time I will answer the first question of the contest: (1) Do you believe in lifelong fidelity?
Do you believe in lifelong fidelity?
This is an important question, which requires an honest answer. First we must define what fidelity is, and in my opinion, it is a human value, which implies loyalty, commitment, attachment, perseverance towards a person, habit, practice or ideal. If we contextualize fidelity within the field of love, then we would be referring to the loyalty and commitment that we give to a romantic bond. In Western societies, fidelity is something expected and desirable, as it provides stability, trust and durability to relationships.
I think that fidelity is essential in relationships, be they courtships, marriages or concubinages, no matter what type of bond exists, for me it is absolutely necessary, because when we are with a person we love, we need to trust them, be sure that that person will honor the relationship, and respect our feelings and expectations.
However, currently there is a lot of relativization of values and principles, which is nothing more than a narrative devoid of ethics and morals. And under this approach, many people argue that fidelity is something relative, that it is dispensable in relationships, they even say that they can be faithful within an open relationship!, which is something really unusual because it is something mutually exclusive; or I wonder, how can you trust your partner if you are uncertain that they are sharing their time, feelings, energy and resources with someone else? How can you trust your partner if you perceive that he is lying to you and that he shares or “multiplexes” himself with one or more people? You couldn't, right?
A relationship is a very strong bond when it is assumed with commitment and fidelity, since you are related to another being in many areas: Physical, sentimental, energetic, emotional, psychological and even patrimonial; hence, it is necessary to have a partner who is absolutely reliable. In my opinion it is not viable to have several people with whom to share yourself at the same time. However, talking about lifelong fidelity may or may not be viable, and this is because humans are mutable, and it is natural. And I say that we are mutable, because every day we experience new experiences, which allow us to learn or unlearn. And these experiences can also modify our points of view and our opinions which, undoubtedly, can strengthen or weaken the bonds of a couple.
I will speak from my personal experience. When I first got married, I thought it would be a lifelong marriage. I saw myself and my first husband, being together, already old, and very happy; but this did not happen, it was not possible. So this failure showed me that relationships are not forever, even when we are faithful, committed and very in love with the other person, because there are circumstances and factors that do not allow us to continue with that relationship; however, it is essential that while the relationship lasts, we are absolutely faithful and that we demand the same from the other party. We do nothing by being faithful, while the other is unfaithful and disrespectful to us, because allowing that would be betraying ourselves, and the first and most important lifelong fidelity that we must have is towards ourselves, without this implying harm or violate others.
Here I end my post, where I have told you about my opinion regarding lifelong fidelity. A hug for everyone.
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