Sometimes life introduces us to people who stay with us during our good days, but slowly disappear when things start getting difficult. I have noticed this many times in my own life. That is why I believe a real relationship is not the one that only celebrates your happiness, but the one that can also understand your difficult days.
A few years ago, I went through a very strange phase of life. From the outside everything looked normal, but inside I was struggling a lot. At that time, I thought the people around me would understand what I was going through. But reality was a little different.
Some people asked the usual question, “Are you okay?” but they never really waited to hear the answer. It felt more like a habit than genuine concern.
But during that time there was one friend who noticed the change in my behavior. He did not give me a long lecture or try to act like a life coach. He simply said one thing:
"If you ever feel like talking, I am here to listen."
It was a very small sentence, but for me it meant a lot.
That moment made me realize something important. A real connection is not the one that is always full of happy conversations. A real connection is the one that can understand your silence, your mood, and even your quiet struggles.
In life we all go through different seasons. Sometimes it is a season of happiness, sometimes a season of struggle, and sometimes a season where we are simply tired. The real question is not why difficult times come. The real question is who stays beside us during those times.
Some people are only companions of sunny days. When everything is easy and bright, they stay close. But as soon as clouds appear, they slowly fade away. Maybe they are not bad people, they just do not have the depth to handle someone else's storms.
For me, the beauty of relationships lies in acceptance. Not just accepting someone during their best moments, but also during their weakest ones.
I have also realized that sometimes we are not the kind of person others might need either. We judge too quickly, we get upset too quickly, and sometimes we walk away too quickly. But if we slow down and try to understand each other a little more, many relationships might survive.
In today’s world people judge very fast. Someone’s silence is taken as arrogance. Someone’s tiredness is taken as carelessness. But the truth is that every person is carrying a story that we cannot always see.
That is why I now try to become the kind of person who understands others not only in their bright days but also in their darker ones.
Because honestly, in life there are very few people who can truly handle the different seasons of your heart.
And maybe the strongest relationships are the ones where two people learn to understand each other’s seasons.