My oldest and dearest friend arrived today, with her two kids. They are staying in a yurt, about 15 minutes from where I live. They came by bus and I met them in town, when they arrived. I had organised a friend of mine to meet us there and drive them to their dwelling for the next 4 nights. It was so good to see her and her kids. There is so much love between us. She has supported me through so many of life's challenges and vice versa.
Even when we have been living on opposite sides of the planet. Now we live closer, with her in West Cork and me in the South of Spain. We don't get to see one another often but when we do, it just feels like home. We are so comfortable with one another. She knows me more than anyone else in my life. She really knows me.
We have had the most amazing fun together, got up to so much mischief. Created the best parties, when we lived in Australia together. Going to numerous festivals together in the U.K. Met the most amazing people. We had so much fun together, we still do.
Then we became mothers, me first then her three years later. Our kids have never grown up together and have met each other less, than a handful of times. So we were eager to get them together. My girls walked over to join us, a little while after we arrived. Everyone was a little shy at first, but it wasn't long until they were having water fights, leaving me and my best friend to sit back and watch them, feeling such love in our hearts. Watching our kids, get on so well, I mean how could they not?
But what joy it brought us, to see them get along so well, laughing and squealing with delight as they raced around after one another. Us sitting outside on a couch, surrounded by mountains. Talking about the many wonderful memories we created together. Remembering the crazy things we done. Remembering the promise we made to each other, that we would grow old together, somewhere with an amazing view, not quite unlike what we were looking at. Mountains galore.
Having such a good friend, such a close friend, that I trust completely, means the world to me. There is a great comfort, having some one you really connect with, in your life. That just gets you, someone you don't need to explain things too, that already knows about the most challenging times in your life, who knows how they have affected you. Some one, who you can be 100% yourself with, all of the time.
I am quite a friendly person, I think it's important to be kind to others, to ( without sounding religious) treat them like you yourself would like to be treated. So I do find it easy to make friends, but as I have grown older, I have learnt not to let myself get very close to everyone I meet. It's important that I look after my own well being and not spread myself too thinly. I need most of my energy and focus to be for my girls and the life I have with them.
This is my response to one the following question from the Ladies Of Hive Community .....
How much does friendship mean to you? Can you make new friends easily?
