Hello my wonderful ladies of hive, I hope you all had a great day today.
I am very delighted to be a partaker of the ladies of hive community contest #192 and I am glad to share my thoughts and to also learn from others.
To me friendship is a precious gift I cherish so much, our friends are the family we get to choose by ourselves, we do not choose our parents, siblings and relatives but we have the free will to choose who we want as friends.
Friendship means so much to me and that is why I value the people I call my friends, I value the relationships I have and I am grateful for my friends who have been my support, confidant and partner in crime.
Personally, I interact and associate with so many people quite easily and I make friends but in the circle of the friends I have genuine friends, that one person who is my confidant, and support system, that one person that spur up the naughtiness in me, I call her my sister because she is more of a sister to me.
I do not find pleasure in keeping friends who can not add value to my life, I ensured that the genuine friends I make are people who can add value to me and I could equally add value to their life as well.
I never believed I could even have or make friends because back then I was actually a very shy and introverted person, I barely talk to people let alone make friends but thank God things have changed, I am not the same old me, I can now make and keep friends .
My friends have really had great impacts on my life, the fact that I am able to socialize with people is as a result of the friends I have. My friends are actually the people that brought out the best in me, they are my support system, the help me to understand the strength that lies within.
You can not always have too many friends, quality friends are what we should go after, friends who can bring out the good in us, our friends have a way of influencing our personal lifestyle so we ought to choose wisely. I have learnt a whole lot all in the process of making and mending friends.
I can vividly remember what happened to me once and I had promised never to have any friend, when I was a bit younger, I was always very shy and so I had this one friend that I loved so much, I knew how hard it was for me at first to get bonded with her but with time we were so knitted together , we shared things in common, we played and had fun, we shared our secrets together and I trusted her so well that I could express how I truly feel whenever I was with her.
But in the long run, she betrayed me, she told other people the secrets I shared with her and those people turned out to make mockery of me, I can not narrate the whole scenario what she did hurt me so badly, I was so depressed because she was the first friend I had and I loved her so much.
I made up my mind never to have any friend at all, because I was scared of being betrayed and hurt again. I had trust issues and that affected me so badly because I remained lonely.
Later on when I started university, I intentionally made up my mind to bury my past and move on, I had to give friendship another try and It actually worked.
What I am trying to say in essence is that, no relationship is perfect, do not let your experience in the past determine your life, always learn to forgive and move on, it might seem hard but the truth is , we all need people to lean on, and our friends are our support system, they are the precious gift we could ever have.
Thank you for reading.