These questions have made me rethink my entire life, lol. Watching it play before me from the beginning to the present so that I may find the right answers, talk about such interesting questions.
If you could live in the world of any movie, which one would it be?"
Oh, that’s easy; Bridgerton!
Now, I know it's a TV series, but I can't think past it. The gowns, the drama, the breathtaking estates, and let’s not forget the romance, have I mentioned the gowns?! The way those characters steal glances across ballrooms with orchestras playing classical covers of opera songs? Ugh, take me there.
Of course, knowing my luck, I probably wouldn’t be a high society lady getting courted by a dashing duke. But, I'll definitely allow myself to be courted as a lady. Get to experience proper courtship unlike the dating culture of our present and modern society today.
Of course, I'll also be eavesdropping on scandalous gossip, probably work with Lady Whistledown or be her. The idea of stepping into a world where everything is so grand, yet filled with so much societal, family and personal values is definitely intriguing. And maybe, just maybe I won't be Lady Whistledown, but trust me to ensure topics of discussion on my ball gowns are on her front row pages and the talk of the town.
But hold on, back to reality before I start writing my own Regency-era fanfiction/scandal sheets, lol. To answer the question,
Spontaneous or Structured?
Uhm… Both?
See the thing is, I am absolutely unable to stick to routines and believe me, I have tried. I genuinely admire people who wake up at 5 AM, drink their lemon water, journal, meditate, work out, and somehow fit in a full skincare routine before heading to work. It’s inspiring and also completely not me.
I thrive in spontaneity. The idea of waking up every single day and doing the exact same thing makes me feel trapped. Like, I don't think life should feel that rigid. If I wake up one day and feel like going on an impromptu trip, yes, I want to do it. And perhaps some other day, I want to wake up, open my system and spend hours binge-watching K-dramas while eating way too many snacks, so be it as well. I enjoy the unscripted lifestyle.
But then, while I love my freedom and absolutely despise routines, I also enjoy stability. I know, I know. That sounds wildly contradictory. But hear me out. Just because I hate repetition doesn’t mean I like chaos and lack of pattern, oh no.
For instance, I have a set of tasks I do everyday and while they are my compulsory daily tasks, I don't see the need to force them into a specific time. To site an example, I have to write on Hive daily, that's a normal part of my everyday life but being spontaneous to me, means that I don't have a set time I write, I just do my daily tasks in an ascending order of priorities for the day.
However, to make it work, I make To-do lists! Yep, having a to-do list keeps me from feeling like a headless chicken running around with no direction. It’s like my safety net, making sure my overactive brain doesn’t get too distracted and completely forget to do the important things. Because trust me, I can be extremely forgetful and easily distracted.
So, while my mornings don’t look like a perfectly curated aesthetic morning routine, I do start my day with a rough sketch by jotting down what I need to do, making sure my bed is well-laid and even when my table is far from looking arranged, it portrays intentionality because I know the location of everything on my table, the pen might not be in the mini basket I use for holding stationeries but trust me, I know where it is on the table. But often time, you'll find my table organized because I love organized spaces.
And finally, about a daily habit I can’t live without? I honestly don’t have one, and that’s kind of the whole point of my lifestyle.I have things I do everyday, but I embrace change which means, I'll miss them, but I can stay grounded with or without them. Some people wake up and immediately drink water, some meditate, and others can’t function without coffee. As for me, I just go with the flow. I don't even know if that's a good thing.
One day, I might start with listening to music and dancing around my room. Another day, I might scroll on my phone for a little too long before getting up. And on some occasions, I might even wake up and go straight into work mode. Often time, I wake up and journal but that's mostly for when I have overwhelming thoughts.
People often assume that being spontaneous means being all over the place, but that’s not entirely true. I still get things done, I just don’t need to force them into a rigid must-follow daily life schedule.
Having my to-do list helps me feel grounded without making me feel stuck or irresponsible. It gives me the flexibility to switch things up while still keeping me accountable and right on track.
For me, I try to find the balance. Too much structure, and life starts to feel robotic, I can't deal with that. Too much spontaneity, and I might find myself in pure chaos without actually getting anything done, I do enjoy stability and achieving my goals. So, the sweet spot is somewhere in between, having enough organizational skill to stay functional but leaving enough room to be able to switch things up at any time and adapt to changes.
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Thank you for reading! :)