Hmmm what is arrange marriage?well Some of you might have the slightest idea. So it is basically a concept that is decided by two individuals who are apparently getting married and does not know about each other,only their head of families known each other. Their opinion is all that matters. Before writing about this issue i want you to know i am not here to offend anyone, i am just stating facts that we are still facing in 2023.
Life is all about choices, and every little choice defines you as an individual
In our country 90 percent people's marriage is arranged. Even my parents wedding was arranged. My father told me i saw your mother after saying yes(i do) . Same is the case with my mother, they married in 1990 .Eventually after marriage they fell in love with each other 💐. They both are first love of each other. But it's 2023 how can we expect the same thing. What if they don't accept each other the way my parents accept each other. Every individual has their own needs their own choices. It's not about families at the first place, firstly it's about both partner who will spend their lifetime together. It is not justifiablejustifiable if their head of the family decides their most important decision .
Here i need to highlight this too, in Asia children respect, care and cherish their parents a lot . But in some matters i think parents should also listen to their children.They should think out of the box and help their children,they can break these thousand years old stereotypes.
Love marriages are considered as taboo over here. If a person does this then maybe he or she will not get her/his parents blessings. I have also seen brave parents who stood infront of whole society in order to give blessings to their children on their special day no matter they have done love marriage. But still 90 percent percent people are facing this subtle custom since ages. Some girls are forcefully married to the person whom they scarcely known. I remember when i was 13 years old, our newly neighbors were shifted, and they had a love marriages, and people used to stare that couple with disgusting look like they have done something wrong. I get this at a very early age that love marriags are sin. Later on i understand that it is not sin even our religion allow us to get married according to our choices while living in certain limitations which i truly cherish too. Throughout the year people molded beliefs according to their will,but this is just love .If people who deeply in love and their core existence doesn't hurt anybody and they are happy with each other who are we to judge. They can get married in a decent way.
Mostly families allow their children to do love marriage, but even though their parents are ok with it but people will judge you from bottom to top. Breaking stereotypes and taboo is always catastrophic in the eye of society, culture, norms.
In my family too, we are only allow to say no or yes to the suiter who is being choosen by our parents.
Parents always chose best for their children, but little do they know arrange marriages are not 100% successful. Likewise love marriages are not 100% successful, it's all about both individuals who are getting married. Here what is happening parents or other relatives are deciding what kind of person will be suitable for us in order to get married.
Even our religion teaches us to respect other's opinions and other's sentiments more than anything else.
We should become a better human first and then anything else.
** I think in order to please the world we are keep forgetting that we are human too.**