It's such a shame that in this time and age, we still judge people too harshly and beleive that they cannot change even when they've proven to turn a new leaf. But we all know that this is often directed at certain people working or engaging an unconventional kind of job or lifestyle. So this judgement doesn't always come from a place of good faith but to bully and weaken the spirits of people doing things their way.
People change and if they weren't directly hurting anyone, we have no right to play judge over their lives. I'm glad you have stood as a support system to her in this trying times and you have good advices to help the younger ones prioritize their values. We appreciate you. Thank you.
RE: The mindset that ones past identity is permanent.