It’s is no longer a news that majority of the parents don’t punish there kids when the do anything wrong come time last week i was having a discussion with my mom about the way kids of this days are behavior of the are better back in the days where parents punish there kids according to my mom that kids back then are more disciplined and more respectful because the are always of receiving treatment from parents if the misbehave i was telling my mom that parents of this think that when you punish this kids you are scaring them away now here comes the big problem is the society weaker without corporal punishment, or are we simply trying to raise children in healthier ways?
We are in a generation that has changed parenting decades ago; in many homes, disciplining kids and spanking are seen as the normal ways of correction. I remember back then, my mom would always discipline me. When I did anything wrong, she would punish me. She so much believed in 'spare the rod and spoil the child'. If I must be sincere, this experience didn’t destroy me; rather, it built me to the woman I am today. One thing about parenting is that you don’t need to be too soft. When I see kids that are disrespectful, lack accountability and have poor behaviour, I always tell myself that the parent is too soft with the kids.
In the modern day, most parents look so frustrated because they fail to train their kids. That is why many kids appear difficult to be corrected. It is so painful that parents don’t set boundaries because they don’t want to be tagged as toxic parents or harsh parents. Most parents have replaced discipline with excuses and negotiation. That is why most kids today fail to understand why it is important for them to take responsibility for their actions; instead, they push blame to people.
Physical punishment is not the only way to discipline a child. I can remember back then when I was still a child; it was not all the time my mom flogged me. Sometimes I would be the one to do all the house chores in the house while my siblings relaxed without doing anything. After the punishment, she would sit me down and give me advice; with that, I would correct myself. I always tell parents that fear will only bring a temporary obedient child; a child can stop a behaviour because he doesn't want to be punished, not that the understand but he is doing that. Thathe understands, is why it is important to correct these kids with love and care.
It is not as if the parents are not trying. The fact is that these kids are in a generation that can easily be influenced by what they see on social media or influenced by peer pressure, which is changing family patterns. The way parenting worked years ago is not the same. Correctly, some parents are trying to break protocol just to get it right because kids of these days are to be followed with love and care if you want to get it. In as much as you are correcting these kids, it is important we create boundaries; we should not avoid any form of discipline, or it can be dangerous.
A child should learn why there are consequences for every action, either physical punishment or corporal punishment; what matters is correcting the kids with love.
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