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Learn the Art of Saying No: To Protect Your Peace

When I was scrolling Facebook last night an ad appears on my screen in which they were selling books "I love reading Books". So, I go through their website I found a book named *THE ART OR SAYING NO and it force me to think is ut really important to say No by some reasons, after deep thinkings my mind said "YES IT IS IMPORTANT" to me. By that time I started writing about it and just finished the whole story.

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• Why is it important?
• How to Say No?
• How to Get yourself Clear?

We are living in a world where being "busy" is a badge of honor and many of us are owning the badge. We often say "Yes" to things we hate, people who drain us, and tasks we don’t have time for, all because we are afraid of looking rude or to be judged badly.

But here’s the truth: The art of saying "No" is actually the art of soul-care. Your attention is required 👇

This Photo was taken during my Facebook Scroll

Why is it Important?

Every time you say "Yes" to someone else’s unimportant request, you are accidentally saying "No" to your own goals, your family, or your rest (we mostly do that even after if we do not wanted). Your energy is a limited resource as we have limited resource credits here on Hive. If you fill it into everyone else's cup, your cup will stay empty until you start filling it with your efforts. Saying no isn't about being selfish, it's about being honest, sometimes all you need is just to say NO without any reasons. It allows you to give your best to the things that actually matter instead of giving a half-hearted effort to a hundred things you never wanted to do in the first place (I am also learning to say No because it is important, isn't it?).

How to Say No Without Being Rude?

You don't have to be a hard-hearted person to set a boundary. Instead of a saying direct "No," try with these lines 👇
"I would d love to help, but I am out of sources yet so look for another person, please."
Or you can say
"I’m not the best person for this"
The key is to be straightforward no need to over-explain or nor to make up lies, lying it's isn't a good thing. When you will over explain anything you will give people chance to argue with your excuses. What to do? A simple, polite decline is much more respected than a fake promises, do it for your own sake.

Clearing yourself of blame or responsibility..

The hardest part of saying no to someone whom you can't deny is the guilt you feel that the person will feel bad for you. Sometimes you feel like you have let that person down. But keep in mind, you are not responsible for someone else’s reaction to your boundary which you have set for yourself. If they get angry because you prioritized your mental health, they didn't value your time they just are looking for their own benefits.

As a beautiful reminder from Islamic tradition, Hazrat Ali (R.A) said:

"The breath of a man is a step towards his death." (Source: Nahj al-Balagha, Saying 74)

This serves as a powerful reference that the time is ticking away with every breath we're going close to our last breath. We shouldn't waste these precious moments on things that don't bring us closer to our purpose or peace. But we should keep doing some better things for ourselves.

Conclusion

Saying no isn't easy to say sometimes you need to be brave enough. Remember, the more you use it, the stronger it is going to be crucial for you. Start saying with small, value your time while doing work for your own self, and the world will start valuing it too, but it's you who have to start it.