El duelo tras una ruptura en las mujeres, es lo mas difícil que podemos afrontar, nos llaman tontas por aguantar tanto, pero no... No somos tontas por amar de verdad, no somos tontas por perdonar, al.contrario somos Valientes por aguantar tanto dolor por amor, por volver a confiar tras una traición que duele en lo mas profundo, por creer que el otro va a cambiar pero no lo hace, damos una oportunidad tras otra pero sin darnos cuenta nos estamos haciendo terapia de choque nosotras misma, he allí donde nace eso que dicen que las mujeres pasamos el duelo y superamos estando aun en la relacion...
Porque no volvemos a ser las mismas después de la primera traición, después de llorar hasta no poder respirar, aunque seguimos amando, algo dentro de no de nosotras se rompe, nos empezamos a cuestionar y a preguntar ¿Que hice mal?
¿Que me falto? dudamos de nosotras mismas, perdemos el autoestima, pasamos noches en vela buscando cual fue nuestro error, sin darnos cuenta que no es nuestro culpa.
Y vuelve a pasar una y otra vez porque el infiel nunca cambia, solo mejora la estrategia, pero volvemos a caer, volvemos a llorar, pero lo que el hombre no sabe es... Que por creer que la mujer siempre va a personar y por eso vuelve a incurrir en el error, una y otra vez, hasta que un día despertamos y nos damos cuenta de lo mucho que valemos, dejamos de culparnos, ya no preguntamos, ya no reclamamos, ya no lloramos, nos empieza a dar igual lo que haga allí las preguntas cambian.
¿Que estoy haciendo?
¿Por Que sigo aquí?
Empezamos a darnos valor y a darnos cuenta que merecemos mas de lo que nos están dando, la fuerza vuelve, ya no sientes culpa porque estas segura que no fuiste tu quien fallo, diste lo mejor que pudiste, que fuiste leal y siempre estuviste allí, entonces cuando dejas de pelear,
WOMEN AND GRIEF
The mourning after a breakup in women, is the most difficult thing we can face, they call us fools for putting up with so much, but no.... We are not fools for really loving, we are not fools for forgiving, on the contrary we are Valientes for enduring so much pain for love, for trusting again after a betrayal that hurts in the deepest, for believing that the other will change but does not, we give one opportunity after another but without realizing we are doing shock therapy ourselves, that is where it is born that they say that women go through the grief and overcome being still in the relationship ...
Because we are not the same after the first betrayal, after crying until we can not breathe, although we continue loving, something inside of us is broken, we begin to question and ask ourselves What did I do wrong? ** What did I do wrong? What did I miss? What did I do wrong? What did I do wrong? What did I do wrong? **What did I do wrong?
**We doubt ourselves, we lose our self-esteem, we spend sleepless nights looking for what was our mistake, without realizing that it is not our fault.
And it happens again and again because the unfaithful never changes, only improves the strategy, but we fall again, we cry again, but what the man does not know is.... That by believing that the woman is always going to personify and for that reason it returns to incur in the error, again and again, until one day we wake up and we realize how much we are worth, we stop blaming ourselves, we no longer ask, we no longer claim, we no longer cry, we begin to give no matter what he does there the questions change.
**What am I doing?
**Why am I still here?
We start to give ourselves courage and realize that we deserve more than what we are being given, the strength returns, you no longer feel guilty because you are sure that it was not you who failed, you gave the best you could, that you were loyal and you were always there, then when you stop fighting, he thinks he won, that everything is fine, he thinks he won, that everything is getting better because you no longer fight, you no longer complain, you no longer talk, you keep quiet about everything or almost everything, but unfortunately what he thinks is a victory is actually a defeat, because you are losing the only person who has always been unconditionally there for you.
And you say enough I don't deserve this and you leave, and you realize that you did make a mistake, but not the one you thought at the beginning, and that mistake was to have stayed when you were broken up the first time, you realize that you did fail, and it was to yourself when you questioned and blamed yourself for something that was not your fault, when you doubted yourself, and then you wake up the incredible woman you are, you start to love yourself and you leave and the man is left there wondering What happened if everything was fine? But no it was not fine, he dedicated himself to lose you and that is not your fault.... So you're not stupid, if in fact you're proud of how strong you were, and the courage you regained.
You are great WOMAN.
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