Man, really sorry you're going through that.
I get that people who have not experienced this situation first-hand may not understand or may feel "everything is ok" but in truth everything is not ok, everything is fucked, and if it hasn't touched you yet...sit tight, it will.
This is the case in so many realms of society. So many enormous problems that we either don't understand, or just are plain unaware of - and all too often, the uncomfortable feeling that focusing on societal problems brings causes people to hide their eyes from the issues.
Sometimes in fear. Sometimes in judgment (which is often rooted in fear or ignorance)... until it touches them, personally.
Again, sorry you and yours are going through this.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you through this rough time. ❤️
RE: First aid - No aid