One dangerous habit people have these days is looking down on others like life cannot change overnight.
It’s funny how someone will have small money today and suddenly start acting like they are better than everybody else.
A better phone, better clothes, admission, small success.
Then pride enters immediately.
I remember a girl who used to laugh at her coursemate because she was always quiet, repeated clothes and used a small phone.
Anytime the girl entered class, they would whisper and laugh.
Why is she always dressing like this? She’s too dull for my liking
See the palasa phone she's using...
Meanwhile, the girl never offended anybody.
One day, something happened after school that changed everything.
The same girl they mocked saw one of them crying outside because she couldn’t pay for a departmental payment that was urgently needed.
Everybody passed and ignored her.
But guess who stopped? The same poor girl.
She quietly brought out the money she had been saving and helped her without embarrassing her.
That moment was awkward.
Because how do you explain being helped by someone you constantly looked down on?
That day taught me something:
Many people are secretly fighting battles.
The person you’re mocking may be surviving things you would not even be strong enough to handle.
And sometimes, the people with the kindest hearts are the ones life has dealt with the most.
Nobody truly has it all figured out.
Today you’re ahead in life.
Tomorrow someone else may be ahead.
Today you’re the one laughing.
Tomorrow you may pray not to be laughed at.
When I meet people who take joy in tarnishing someone’s name, speaking ill of them, and sabotaging their reputation, I keep my distance and apply wisdom in how I deal with them. Because it might be me next when they discover my flaws.
Most people aren’t wise at all. They act like they’re perfect while assuming others are dirty.
Everyone has flaws, but that doesn’t give you the right to pass judgment without understanding them and why they do what they do.
Sometimes people don’t act better because they’re mentally unstable and still trying to fix themselves. In the process of dealing with their struggles, they may not give their best in a situation.
That doesn’t mean they’re useless or stupid.
Let’s stop destroying people’s image. If you can’t say it to their face, why say it behind their back?
Life changes very fast.
So be humble.
Because there is nothing you have today that life cannot humble tomorrow.
Treat people well, respect people, speak kindly.
Pride has made many people lose good hearts around them.
Never let temporary comfort make you disrespect another human being.
You see that habit of constantly preferring one person over another in the same space?
It starts from the little things.
The moments you see a group of people and choose to acknowledge just one person as though the others are not there. The moments you openly celebrate one person while quietly overlooking another. The moments you intentionally or unintentionally make some people feel seen while others feel invisible.
For me, I’ve always learned to love people around me equally in my own way. You can never see me in a room full of beautiful ladies and compliment just one person while acting like the others do not exist. I will hail everyone, celebrate everyone, and make everyone feel good in my own little way.
Nobody deserves to feel invisible in a room they are already present in. So this week, don't just be kind to one, be kind to all.
All images are mine