Distance Didn’t Break Us... Silence Almost Did
My fiancee got a scholarship to study in the UK. We both lived in Nigeria, but since he was leaving, it meant our relationship was going to be a distant one. I thought of how we'd cope with the distance; we spoke about it before he left.
It was such an emotional moment for us as we shopped, packed, and got ready for his departure. Finally, the big day came, and my love touched down in the UK the following day.
The first few weeks were lonely. I knew he had to adjust to the new environment, but then, how long would one adjust? The lonely weeks stretched into lonelier months without calls, or at least without him returning the ones I made—short replies on texts on a good day and, sadly, blue ticks without replies. At some point, we almost reached a breaking point. But guess what? It wasn’t the kilometers that nearly tore us apart. It was the silence.
I thought I wouldn't survive not seeing him for months. I realized I could actually survive that, but what I couldn’t deal with were unanswered calls, blue ticks with no reply, or “Sorry, I slept off” every day. That silence slowly became the middleman that almost separated us faster than distance could.
After a few months, I made up my mind I wasn’t doing this anymore. Maybe there was someone else, my perplexed mind had the better of me and I couldn't help it. With a fixed mind I called, and surprisingly, he picked up. I wanted to end it all but decided to talk about the lack of communication that was cutting us off little by little. I had no hopes that anything was going to work out between us in such a situation. After I vented, I dropped the call, not expecting a reply this time. I had said it was over.
But was it really?
He called back, and even though I swore I wouldn’t pick, curiosity got the better of me. The next thing that followed were apologies, promises to do better...
I listened attentively, and then again there was silence ,but not the usual one sponsored by unanswered calls or blue ticks with no replies. This time, I had to be silent to consider the apologies and promises.
It wouldn’t hurt to give your love a second chance, right?
Truth be told, I was skeptical. But as the days went by, I noticed a significant change. The silence turned to laughter, tears of joy, sharing moments, and inclusion in the littlest details.
Even though we were two cities and several kilometers apart, there was enough communication to cover the vacuum of distance.
I joined my husband a year later, and I realized that sometimes, love isn’t just about presence, but presence felt near or from several kilometers away.
Check up on that loved one today, Your Mom,Dad , siblings, cousin, husband,wife ,fiance, fiance.......
Communicate,share your moments , don't leave them guessing, return their calls, reply their messages, love them by being present.
I hope you get the message
Have an amazing weekend.