Some people say love is a weakness. Well, I do not totally disagree with that, because when it comes to protecting the ones you love, they can become your weakness.
My point is that some weaknesses are unnecessary, and you can see this clearly in a man who loses himself trying to feed that weakness.
VIEWING MANY RELATIONSHIPS
Many relationships today are out of balance because there is no distinction between the role of the man and the role of the woman. But that is not how it was meant to be. That is why I want to use this Hive platform to make people understand that a man is meant to choose, not simply love (at least not in the way many people perceive it).
There is a big difference between being loving and being submissive.
Love has a choice. A submissive person has none.
It is the duty of a man to love and the duty of a woman to be submissive.
When a man becomes submissive to his woman, he loses the power to make hard choices, and once a man can no longer do that, he loses his purpose.
A man who cannot stand on principle will eventually bend to emotions, and emotions are unstable. Today they can make you feel strong, tomorrow they can make you destroy everything you once believed in.
WHO IS THE LEADER?
Leadership in a relationship was never designed to be based on feelings alone. Feelings change. Desire changes. Even affection can be tested by time and pressure. But purpose must remain stable.
A man must be able to say no, even to the person he loves, if saying yes will destroy the future he is trying to build. That is not wickedness. That is discipline.
Most people confuse control with leadership. Leadership is not oppression. Leadership is responsibility.
It is carrying the burden of difficult decisions even when they are misunderstood.
A loving man provides protection, direction, and stability. But once he becomes emotionally dependent to the point where he cannot think clearly without the approval of his woman, he slowly gives away his authority.
And when authority disappears, confusion enters the relationship.
This is why balance matters. Love should strengthen purpose, not replace it. A relationship works best when both people understand their roles and do not compete for the same position.
Because when a man forgets who he is trying to please emotions, he eventually loses the very thing that made him valuable in the first place (his ability to lead with clarity and conviction).