Organic friends

I can't recall ever setting out to make a new friend; planning out and acting in ways to find and engage new friends is something I've not wanted to do as I prefer friendships to occur organically and for the right reasons rather than being manufactured.

I don't think I'd even know where to start to manufacture a friendship and aren't sure I'd be my true self in the process to be honest; if I wasn't my true self and a friendship ensued...well, would it truly be a friendship or a creation born of my changed behaviours.

I don't know the answer.

I have some very real and true friendships and am thankful for them, and they all developed over time. There was no specific moment when we announced, "now we're friends." We just sort of grew into friendship status and before we even knew it the relationship was cast. Each of them simply feels right, each is different from the next and unique to the people in it and each person nurtures it in their own way.

New friends

I recently shared some feelings with a friend, value-items about our friendship and how it made me feel, and was pleased to hear that the person felt the same and found the same value in me as I do in them. That's a true friend I think.

At some stage we were new friends but I cannot even remember when that happened and it what the "newness" felt like; no matter how hard I try, all I can remember is that we are friends and it feels like we've been friends forever. It's a nice feeling.

Have you ever felt the same?

How have your friendships started and progressed and have you actively sought them out or allowed them to take their own course. Have you had to work at creating them or have you been yourself knowing that that's enough to spark the right sort of friendship with the right sort of people? What about when one runs its course and ends; do you simply let it go or are you loath to do so?

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