Tom spread my husband's ashes, or half of them, on the ocean in one of his favorite fishing spots. I didn't go, seasickness is a serious problem for me. I still have half his ashes on the kitchen island and on the dining room table with those of his best friend. I've asked Tom to spread them all when I'm gone.

They video taped the whole event for me. The ashes spread out like an angel swimming and floated on the surface far longer than you'd expect heavy ashes to.