I used to live a life that feels like that the best thing in the life could be given to us if you are willing to grab them. I thought words respect love, the things that we can change directly, like we can tick all the boxes and have all these things at our disposal.
But do you know that life has a way of teaching us lessons to our experience. I have realized that the things that we want they don't come when we directly aim at them, they just come as side effects of us being valuable to people and us being the best version of ourselves. It's not about that money but it is skills we have tend to develop over time, who we are trying to be.
Discipline build our mindsets, this is what creates the words and the friendship around us. The same goes to love, you might feel that finding love or finding the right person meant just going through profiles attending events having your specs and your standards but the truth is you attract someone who matches your energy, your lifestyle and following the path you want to go. This shows the value you're trying to offer and the person that you're trying to become.
The best relationships are not the ones that grow quietly or just from nowhere or someone just walks beside. You need someone that understands your message and is ready to follow you instead of fighting your purpose.
When it comes to parenting too, just follow this rule you don't have to try to save your children to be confident or kind of children by telling them to do so you just model it, you just show them the benefit of being confident and being yourself and all the others and they will eventually follow you effortlessly.
The lesson is observe silently not the one that is forced in a soul that is not fertile. It has come to the moment that I have learned to stop chasing those outcomes and start focusing on what really matters, which is the journey of self-improvement. Improve yourself, build your values, it builds resilience, it teaches patience and it shapes the kind of work we want.
We have to measure our progress differently, not by what we have but by what or whom we are becoming. The best things in life are not the goals, they are just reflections. They are what reflect the efforts, the courage you put in to becoming a better person. And if you ask me, that is the kind of life. Emulating and living a life of value that attracts people effortlessly around us. That is so much work.