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This morning I looked for the first time if there are interesting communities on Hive, and I saw that there is this community and therefore I decided to make my first post, also because it seems to me just the right community and I want to do this also to understand how people outside my country think, probably the topic I will touch on in this post, maybe outside of Italy it is seen in a slightly different way.
In fact, today I really wanted to talk about the fact that many times when I go around but also when I meet with relatives when there are the classic Christmas and Easter holidays, one of the classic questions they ask you is that If you don't want to become a father, also because by now I more than 45 years old and you're seen at that age that theoretically you should already be a father, while as in my case in reality I'm not even married.
I don't know if you mean what, sometimes for a single of my age, in Italy they always look at you badly, there are so many prejudices about this thing, and they can't understand that a person can also find himself in that situation due to his personal choice, because maybe he hasn't found the right person and is fine alone as in my case.
It's a really difficult thing to make relatives understand but let's also say close friends, and honestly I've never felt the need to become a father, this doesn't mean I don't doubt that it's a beautiful and fantastic thing that life can reserve you, but from my point of view you have to wait for the choices a person wants to make.
Sometimes it can happen, especially I think in Italy, that a single is seen as a big egoist who thinks only of himself, and especially in a country like Italy they almost blame you for the fact that there is a huge demographic decline, like it was your fault that people don't have kids anymore.
Most likely in Italy this thing is a cultural issue, unfortunately In my opinion the fulfillment of the person and his happiness according to some are closely linked to married life and the family precisely because the family is often considered the fundamental unit of society.
I'd really like to know if around the world singles are seen in this situation, even if in other parts of the world you've seen it badly, they're seen almost as failures, and unfortunately in Italy this also happens to women, especially if they choose not to become mothers.
I hope you have understood the meaning of my post, and I hope that here in this community there is the possibility of a constructive discussion, meanwhile I thank you, bye everyone!