It's not debt, it's reciprocal love ...

This sentence is uncomfortable,... A good son doesn't stay, a good son leaves, because we were taught that to love is to stay, to hold, not to walk away, not to “fail". A son did not come to this world to save his parents from their shortcomings.He came to receive life... and to live it.

This process is not always easy, it is not always fast, sometimes it requires reviewing invisible loyalties, old faults and well ones that need to be rearranged.

A child is truly at peace with his parents when he can leave with a light heart. When he can do his life without feeling that he is abandoning, that he is betraying, that he is leaving an outstanding debt.

Many children do not leave because they are bound by invisible loyalties. A mother who suffered. A father who couldn't. A story that was left unfinished.And without realizing it, the son is left to hold.

When a child takes life as it came with what was and what was missing, without complaint, without demand, without wanting to rewrite history, something is ordered deeply inside.

He no longer needs to stay to compensate.It no longer carries other people's destinations.He no longer occupies places that do not belong to him.

When parents love from a deep place, they do not hold back. They give their life and trust. They know that the greatest act of love is not that the child stays, but that he can walk free, without burdens, without guilt, without emotional debts.

The process of being interdependent and autonomous is not only to establish geographical distance, it is to heal wounds and be truly responsible for oneself, being able to share life with love both with parents, as well as with a partner, children, family and friends.

The family shares, helps, contains. From love and not from the famous emotional debt so fashionable. Children can do their life perfectly. And that doesn't mean disassociating yourself from your parents, because They are family.

The best gift we can give our children is to invest in our mental health and be able to measure up in terms of maturity... it's hard to be a sensitive child and not have adults accompanying you. With this criterion we do not abandon our pet when it gets old. It's not debt, it's reciprocal love.

Loving children is a very great level of love, if you remember that you were a child and were sensitive to what was happening around you, if you rescue the good that your parents gave you, if you try to negotiate between your needs and their needs. love is a very great force, which unites us, gives us strength and courage.

You just have to let yourself go, give up, be flexible. Love is not measured by physical closeness. It is felt in freedom and inner peace.

Janitze.🌷