“We will never again be as happy as we were in childhood” is a thought that has occurred to an adult at least once.
Yes indeed. Our brain is already full of excessive worries and it is difficult for us to return to that lightness of being.
According to the latest research, people who consider themselves happy are the majority (more than 53%). However, in the adult world there are still many unhappy people, dissatisfied and even completely depressed.
After analyzing several factors and studying research, we can draw several conclusions about why people are happier in childhood than in adulthood.
Atypical reasons why childhood seems happier:
**Pleasant trepidation about the future. **Hope for the best, prepare for life. We're excited!
How many people now believe in their future?...** Love of exploring the world. **Could you now spend at least one day like you did as a child? Conventionally, play with leaves for half a day, look at berries and form shapes from improvised means, come up with game scenarios, or just imagine yourself as a hero? Exactly.
“Try not to make your life interesting, but to cultivate interest in life within yourself.”** No anxiety. **Yes, we worried about little things, but we didn’t care much about politics, illness, or public opinion. Now many people stop living their lives, go into stupor and hibernation. Fear paralyzes many.
Expression of emotions. Some were more closed, some were more open, but all children show their emotions more clearly. Again, because there are fewer fears.
Every day is like a little life. And every day matters. Now they are flying faster than a falling star. We don't notice them. Everything seems already familiar, and that’s why it’s uniform.
** Contact with nature.** As children, we spend more active time outdoors. We breathe fresh air and come into contact with animals. Between the office and home, it’s difficult to find time for a walk in the forest...
Society. You probably had a wide social circle as a child, regardless of your ability to make new friends. Parents, relatives, children from neighboring houses and school. In adulthood, it is increasingly common to see people living alone and minimizing contact with other people.
I consider myself an introvert, but I remember coming across this interesting study:
Two groups of people with weak communication skills (introverts). There was contact with one group every day - small talk in the elevator, greetings from neighbors, etc., while others were limited in this most of the time. Consciously, both groups did not want additional communication. However, the level of happiness of the first group, where there was more communication, was significantly higher. Just think about…
- And lastly, but in my opinion, the most important. Traditions. Do you remember your family's customs? If yes, write in the comments, I think it will be useful to many.
I'm not just talking about celebrating New Year or Easter. Little things like going to church on Sunday, to the market on Saturday, weekly trips to visit guests, morning tea with dad, dinners together, picking up mom from work. It seems so insignificant at first glance, but thanks to such little things, a feeling of fullness of life was formed. They were important.
Even being despondent, we knew that in the evening we would have a joint movie evening and life would go on. The most interesting thing is that in childhood there was order. And when there is order, our brain is calm. He shouldn't have worried - what will happen tomorrow? He knew.
This idea also confirms why happy people often live “according to plan.”
Add in the comments what do you think made us happy as children?