Why does the loss of a loved one hurt?
When my mother died, I often asked myself: Why does it hurt so much? why does it hurt so much? And I cried as often as I remembered her and it was almost daily. The pain of losing a loved one
The pain of the loss of a loved one is the most painful time that one can go through after a bereavement.
many friends told me that it was normal to cry, but I think I was already entering a suffering
I was already going into a suffering that I felt would never stop.
Many times after experiencing that painful loss I felt guilty for what had happened.
my mother died from a kind of fibrosis caused by years of cigarette smoking.
my mother died of some kind of Fibrosis due to years of cigarette smoking and we as her children never reproached her for it.
never reproached her for anything about it, so the sense of guilt that came to my mind was always embracing.
why didn't I do this, why didn't I do that, why didn't I do the other?
another? In short, it was a cumulus of feelings of anxiety and sadness, all together, all together
and I couldn't stop it.
Beyond that, one day I lost so much to God that I felt frustrated to suffer from crying, crying, crying, crying and crying.
frustrated of suffering, of crying, of being restless, of a sleepless night when I fell into a deep sleep and something happened.
I went into a deep sleep and something amazing happened; I dreamt of my mother and in the dream she was very upset with me.
dream she was very upset with me, I said in the dream, I knew she had not died!
I was rejoicing with her, to see her, but she was still upset with me and it was because I was very
me and it was because I was very upset about her death, she simply said don't cry anymore, I am fine.
I'm fine, I'm fine.
Some good friends came to my house and helped me little by little to distract me from the
distract me from all this process I was going through, many of them would tell me the following: "I am fine.
many of them would tell me the following:
... that it was natural for people to die and that God decides the destiny of each one of us.
... that it was natural for people to die and that God decides the destiny of each one of us.
... that I had a life ahead of me and that it should continue.
... I had to let go of all that, I could get sick because of what I was going through.
I could get sick because of all that I was going through.
And it was strong for me, it wasn't like flipping down a switch and forgetting everything, but it was doing it.
forget everything, but I was making changes in my life, I was taking the considerations of my friends and family, because in spite of everything
family, because in spite of everything I know that my mother would not be proud to see me in bad shape.
to see me in a bad way.
Today I have learned that we must value the people we love very much.
people we love.
I hope that if someday you go through a bereavement remember this.
We are not eternal, we all have a purpose on earth and things happen by God's decision and he
happen by God's decision and he will give us relief to the soul and heart. See you soon...