Destiny, a word that we have probably heard many times throughout our lives, in the sense that something that happened or will happen is written, is determined and cannot be modified.

When I hear phrases like that I wonder if it is true, if destiny exists and if everything is already written. If I think yes, that everything is already destined, I feel that I am in a movie and I am just following a script, which I do not find pleasant, because it makes me feel that I am not the owner of my decisions.

When I think that nothing is written, somehow I am happy and I am afraid, I am happy because I can decide what to do with my life, use my free will, and I am afraid because everything is totally uncertain and to a great extent depends on me, I say to a great extent and not at all, because there are always external factors that make us question and / or influence our decisions, or my life in general.

There are ways to know our destiny, one is palmistry which is the reading of the lines of the hand (which is a pseudoscience), I remember that as a child I knew that there was the line of life and in my hand that line is very short, and I thought I was going to die young, it gave me a horrible terror because I did not want to die young. After knowing that it has no solid basis, I lost my fear, even writing about this publication was that this distant memory came to my mind.

Knowing my destiny scared me, either because the answer was not favorable or because it was not something I was prepared for, nor was I old enough to know that information. Regardless of the reason, having that answer about my destiny was a big scare.

I rarely think that if something happens to me it is due to destiny, I usually think of cause and effect, if I do something it has consequences and if someone else does something it can also have consequences on me. It's not fate, it's that we live in society and therefore our actions influence others and ourselves.

Now, why do so many people attribute what happens to them to fate? I think it is to feel that what happens, especially the bad things, is not someone's fault, but fate's fault, it is a way to avoid responsibility. What I do understand is that believing in fate can help to make the pain more bearable, especially when they are deaths of loved ones that we did not expect to die.

Somehow, believing in fate allows people to feel that what happens happened because it had to happen and not because our actions resulted in whatever happened. And for some people that is functional.

I seek to be true to my cause and effect thinking, and because of that, I try to make good decisions if I have the opportunity to do so, so as not to affect my life and/or other people's lives. And I also seek to understand why so many people believe in fate.

And you, do you believe that everything is written?