I think that learning at any level, even in relation to behavior, is based on a reward and punishment system. In the case of parenting, when parents were deprived of the right to physically discipline their kids, only words remained. And when they were then deprived of the possibility of scolding or reprimanding them verbally, only privileges remained. That is why what you mention happens, with parents taking away their children's privilege of watching television for a week as a form of punishment that is intended to be severe. While I agree that this is not an effective punishment for disciplining kids, I understand that parents do this because they feel powerless, lacking other resources that would be more effective and that were used in the past but can no longer be used due to modern conventions or laws.

But speaking of learning at all levels, we have to say that it cannot be accommodating, because learning without pain, without experiencing both frustrating and positive experiences, is ineffective and useless. Of course, wisdom should always come first, but if human beings were wise, we could learn effectively just based on the experience of others, but it is not. One lesson to us on this is what is wise is not always the most comfortable or the least painful.

What should be well known by now is that, unfortunately, human learning does not work in an axiomatic way, but rather in a primitive and animalistic way, based on the reward-punishment scheme. This means that if you make decision “A” and it goes wrong, then you make decision “B,” and if that goes right, then you learn that that is the correct one. This means that learning is dichotomous or binary, based on right or wrong. Also, it is related to emotions, good and bads. This is the only way it can be, because if we eliminate the experience of pain and leave only the reward, the balance is upset and learning does not occur. That is my opinion on this matter.