Dating apps aren't for dating from what I have heard. If you want to date, go out, meet people at events you enjoy, doing things you enjoy, and learn to talk, engage, and be an interesting person by yourself and the kind of person who attracts the kind of person you want. Too many people want something, without becoming the kind of person who can deal with what they want. If that makes sense.

How I see it is, if we are unable to be with ourselves, we are not going to do a great job being with another.

And when it comes to past ghosts. We shouldn't let our past dictate our behaviours of the present. We can be something else immediately - we just have to be willing to do what is necessary now.