is that if they are hyperfixated on an idea they will only see the things they want to see and will downplay or outright dismiss anything that doesn't fit what they want to be true.

quite an amazing position, isn't it?

guess it's a really easy conflation for a lot of people because there's about ten seconds of elation

We favour that instant gratification mechanism heavily.

or they're too stupid to note how they're acting

I think this is the case often enough too. They don't realise how entitled they are acting, because they are surrounded by feedback encouraging them.

Why should they have to no one else is 🙄

And I partly agree. It is a losing game to do the right thing these days, but if no one does?