There are times that we get scared. I am not talking about when we were younger, and scared of the dark rooms, or of dogs, and big turkeys chasing us. No! --
I mean now that we are adults and are meant to handle life and all its gifts, we still sometimes fear.
We become scared; scared that a plan might not work out well, we fear our bosses instead of respect them with the notion of not wanting to lose the job, we fear the inflations, fear the future, fear that our children might not turn out as we think in our head, fear that our spouses might not love us as much as we love them, fear insecurities and disasters, fear our “enemies”, fear even our friends, and because of that, we begin to live with a lifestyle of either coping mechanisms or avoidance rather than just living life freely, full of love and without worries.
While this is the reality of many people, it needs to change. For one to enjoy this life; vain as it is, we need streams of faith, love and hope flowing to us as many times as possible; not fear.
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Fear is focusing on and expecting the possible negatives in life.
When we fear, it doesn't give us time to navigate and overcome a challenge, it doesn't give us time to live genuinely, it doesn't give us time to hope and work towards the positives.
Take for instance, I experienced a major betrayal from a friend when I was 15, and oh! I fought it! By God's grace, I later got my victory over it, but I was still pained! I wasn't hurt because of the actions, I felt more hurt because of the “who” the betrayal came from, especially as all my intentions were simply pure towards her.
I decided then to not have friends and rather keep to myself. Good decision I thought, but that was fear of future betrayal taking its course on my decision to avoid friendships. Thank God I was wise to not keep to that decision.
As I grew, I had many friends, and I stayed loyal with pure intentions for them.
Did any of my friends hurt me thereafter? Yes!
Do I still have friends? Yes! A good number of them!
Will any one of them still hurt me? Maybe😄😄
I have decided to not live in the fear of betrayals from friends. Even my best friend and lover; my Lord Jesus was betrayed, talk more of me😄😄
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Rather than choosing fear, let's do this instead: Rather than having fear, be filled with faith. Rather than fear of heartbreak, be filled with expectations of pristine and intentional love. Rather than the fear of lack, be filled with the anticipation of abundance. Rather than the fear of failure be filled with hope and expectations for great success.
The thing is there is never a void when it comes to issues like this, there just has to be a stance.
When we fear, especially when capitalised upon, it is a decision to not pick either faith, hope, and love.
Looking at fear from another angle according to Sr. Mary Tricky quoted in John Mason's “The Impossible is Possible” --- she said: “Fear is faith that it wouldn't work out.”
So you see, those things that you fear, and decide to not overcome, that is you taking a decision that things wouldn't work out. That is you deciding to not choose love, faith and hope.
Today, I ask you:
What do you fear? Call it out, face it and beat the hell out of it!
~~With Love from Big Tess🫰🤭💝