There is this thing with young people and wanting to be independent. It's a natural force, every young person has it pushing against their minds. It starts from late childhood/early teen age; when they seem to stop needing your help, when they want to do it themselves even if they don't really know how it is meant to be done.
Mid to late teen age and they are already doing their things in full force, they are very sensitive to their boundaries, their privacy, they don't want you telling them what to do. That's why at this stage parenting moves from making decisions for them to partnering with them to get things done.
This is the stage when lots of things go haywire for some young people. We can always overdo things without the right authority managing our actions. This is where most rebellion happens. We can start doing things out of the norms for our family or environment. This is where I've seen most young people have issues with their parents or guardians.
By early adulthood, young people are ahead with their life, some even refuse to involve their parents or guardians in anything that concerns them. I realized that I didn't have an aversion to my parents, especially when it had to do with them telling me to do something. Even if that thing is initially uncomfortable to do.
Of course it wasn't always that way. I used to hate it too, like every other young person, until after a series of events, I realized that these people are on our side. They want the best for us, as much as they understand what's best for us at that point. I understood that and it reduced the friction that usually comes with having your parents, guardians and mentors telling you what to do or not to do.
How did you deal with that friction as a young person?