I have had a day filled with mixed feelings on a variety of topics. I happened to engage a friend, a close neighbour, I would say, in a conversation. During that period, there was a program on the radio about a woman who abandoned her child and left her husband to the extent of nearly ruining the man’s life. My friend said women are useless and terrible, and I understood that he spoke from his own experience with his wife, who left him, even though he also admitted that he did not handle things well, which contributed to the separation. According to what the wife told us, he was not very responsible.
I had to stop him from generalising because we are all guilty in one way or another. I told him that everything depends on circumstances. What happened to person A does not necessarily mean person B will experience the same thing. Also, just because your wife was not good to you does not mean other people will not speak well of her.
Kindness is relative
Why do I say this? Someone may be good to us but not good to another person. It all depends on the relationship you have with that individual. So, just because you are on bad terms with someone does not automatically mean the person is wicked or unkind. Some people judge others simply because of one person’s opinion without ever dealing with them personally. That is one thing I try not to do. Even if I am told that someone is bad, I still prefer to give the person the benefit of the doubt unless I can confirm it through repeated experiences or consistent reports from many people, both home and abroad.
The truth is that people can tell who you are after dealing with you on several occasions. They can determine whether you are kind or easy to relate with. It all depends on the type of relationship you maintain with them. Someone may not be good when it comes to marriage, yet such a person may thrive in other aspects of life. We should not use only one scenario to judge people. We must be careful not to react to everything people say all the time.
Emotional management
We are all human beings, and blood runs through our veins, which means we are all prone to different degrees of emotional struggles. Some people get annoyed easily, while others are meek and hardly look for trouble. Nevertheless, we all need to manage our emotions wisely so that we can deal properly with different kinds of behaviour from various people.
In all, we should not fight or judge someone simply because of another person’s opinion or judgment without verifying the facts ourselves. Although, in many rumours, there is often a trace of truth.