It is not everyone who loves genuinely, and the question is: Does true love really exist? Well, it all depends on someone’s experiences and their purpose in life. The truth is that there may be true love, but I reckon it exists in only a few people.
These days, people love for a reason, and from my experience in life, humans are unpredictable and can change at any time. You would be surprised that the person who seems to love you today may tomorrow change their mind. Nowadays, people love for a reason, and that is why it is difficult to know who is truly with you and who is against you. If you are lucky enough to be with someone who loves you genuinely, you should be grateful and hold such a person in high esteem. It does not mean that people who love you will never find fault in you, but they will be there to correct you and support you. And when it seems you are getting it wrong, they will be there to set you right.
Love is never transactional
Some people talk about love only when it involves what you can do for them. In this world of ours, it is difficult to distinguish between those who actually care and those who are merely users. Some people are users and will only be there with you when you are important and useful to them.
Some are even pretenders. They will do whatever it takes to appear good in your presence, yet speak ill of you behind your back, and only stand by you when things are going well.
Not everyone is for you
The truth is that we can not always be 100 per cent free from guilt, and it all depends on how much we value the person we are with. When people realise that you are important to them, they will surely make sure not to offend you, and if they do, they will easily apologise. It is actually difficult to know who loves you without any strings attached. It is just what it is.
Be relevant
There is a place for relevance when it comes to love. If you are not important, you are limited in the kind of love you receive. It is just what it is, and that is the way of the world. Hardly will you see love that is genuine in this generation. And we are all guilty of this.
Only a few people do things with pure intentions
They say nothing is free, even in Freetown. The truth is that only a few people will do things without expecting anything in return, and some feel so entitled to everything they receive. And when that stops, they will certainly go their own way. They are also often the ones most likely to criticise you.
The loyalty of a poor man is questionable
It is what it is. This does not mean that all poor people are not loyal. The truth is that a larger percentage of them may not be loyal, as it is sometimes something they do just to remain relevant. It is difficult for people to trust when they know you need help and assistance, and they only show loyalty during those periods.
Love is not really love
It is all transactional; only a few are genuine. Life itself is a transaction. If you are not caring enough, even your own family may abandon you. It is just what it is, and no one really cares about you if you fail to do the right thing. Does true love really exist without both parties even being deliberate about it?