Table of Contents
- Introduction
- A Personal Story
- Understanding Promises and Disappointment
- Strategies to Control Disappointment
- The Root Cause
- About Winanda
Introduction
The reason you are disappointed sometimes is...
Not so fast—were you expecting to know in the first sentence? Anyway, you'll find out soon. Keep reading.
I suppose we have all been disappointed at some point in our lives, and it has hit us hard, leaving us sad and in deep thought.
What if I told you that you can avoid feeling hurt from disappointment, or at least control it? Yes, you can be less affected when it happens.
A Personal Story
There was a time (years ago) when I felt sad about not receiving what I was promised and wondered why they changed their minds. "Why would they raise my hope and bring it down at last?" I was happy when the promise was made and anticipated the time I would receive it.
Then I thought: "It was their decision. I didn't ask for anything, but they wanted to offer it to me. So they can choose to withdraw their offer." I had to learn to accept it that way, and my mind was at rest.
So whenever someone promised me something, I didn't let it occupy my mind, nor did I expect anything. I was open to the unexpected. It didn't prevent me from having a plan B if necessary.
Understanding Promises and Disappointment
I understand that it is good to keep one's word, and that is how trust is built. I also understand that anyone could have circumstances that prevent them from fulfilling their promise, and that's a different situation entirely.
Some people intentionally promise and fail or renege because they didn't receive what they intended from the person. They promise hoping to gain something in return and to be sure they have it before they fulfill their promise, when they request for it and don't receive it, they renege on their promise.
Well, this makes me laugh, because: "Why act that way?" Anyway, human beings behave differently.
Now, here is what I realized and have been doing to avoid feeling disappointed or worried when a promise has been made.
It's not only when you are promised something, but it also applies when you request something from someone else, and they agree but fail in the end.
Strategies to Control Disappointment
So here they are:
Keep your heart and mind open for better things. Humans can change their minds or could find themselves in a situation where they can't fulfill their promise.
Don't expect much from anyone, not even when you've been promised something. You won't like it when you're focused, wondering when you'll receive it and probably requesting it. It could be annoying to the person when you have to request it or disturb them. It's a situation you don't want to find yourself in.
If it's not for you, it can't be for you. This is simple. As long as it's not yours, it's likely not going to be yours.
In fact, don't expect it from the person, and if you truly need it, have a plan B. Yes, it is what it is. Feel good when they promise you and thank them for the offer, but play it safe and don't think about it. Always have a plan B so you don't feel disappointed, destabilized, or disorganized.
The Root Cause
You will agree with me on this.
Think about it: the reason we feel hurt from disappointments is that we expected so much from what was never ours and had no plan B. We fixed our minds on that thing, hoping and anticipating the day we would receive it.
Now you know how to control your feelings from disappointment. I hope you found it helpful.
Thank you for visiting and taking the time to read my blog post. I would love to know your thoughts in the comments.
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About Winanda
 | Winanda (Ikwuoma Winifred Diala) holds a Bachelor's degree in Petroleum Engineering. She embraced her passion and became a baker, recipe developer, creative writer, and food content creator. Composing songs, listening to music, and watching movies are a few of her hobbies. |
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