Hello Hive.

I grew up with quite an interesting belief that hunted me for years until I became civilized and exposed enough to understand and rescue myself from the situation.
The idea was that Slim people are suffering from illnesses that is why they cannot put on weight while chubby /thick persons are seen as healthy people in our society back then

Beauty is seen/perceived as when you are thick/chubby with big Butt and Bust 😁, complete figure 8 with a small/thin waist line.
While my Nigerian men see someone who is thick as been beautiful, the white folks oversea assume that it is the slimmer ladies that are beautiful, haha 🤓.
This was the idea planted in my heart.

I was slim of course and every effort made by my parents in terms of diet and all that to make me add some weight proved abortive.
Although I was managing a disorder but that was not the reason I was slim 😁. I have seen people of my kind been chubby and huge.

Then came the regime of body shaming, I felt bad about my looks, for a long time I would never look into the mirror, saw myself like a skeletons, all bones and no flesh 😁, my collar bones will be the first to say hello to friends and acquaintances even before I open my mouth to greet them, they were so obvious I couldn't hide them with some flesh and that made me hide in a shell for so long

Possible Solution.

After I joined the fashion world I came up with a potential solution, something I learnt from my boss Hive account@taimah.
She also had a small body build and would absolutely prefer to put on outfits very large like this one am wearing today.

Although she wasn't a victim of body shaming but she would always put on big dresses or baggy outfits to cover her body form and give her the "Big madam look"we all desire. Boss lady and bossy look 🙈🙈

I learnt that from her and thought that it was a cool idea to escape from body shaming.
But there was a limitation, I was never comfortable in those outfits.
I love to wear skimpy dresses and skirts, this hunted me for a while until the day I decided to accept my body the way it is.

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There were times I added extra foam to my butts for enhancement,it is still a new trend in fashion.
We can sew an outfit and add extra butt and bust for you. Not everyone in a lovely party dress has that body form you see we have enhanced some of them with fibre and foam during the sewing of their outfits 🤣

Overcoming stigma like this is a thing of the mindset. You have to love yourself the way you are regardless of how people think or you perceive that they think of you.

A list of what am made of 🙈🤓😂

• I have a small stature and will often look like a 20year old girl hmmm

• Small body build
  With no big Butt or Bust 😁 Yahhhhhh

• Tiny voice that speaks like a baby. 🤓

And all the qualities that make me look like one teenage girl, you have to look at me properly to guess my age or give me some respect accorded to an adult female.

None of those are my concerns now and if you see me in any big style dress henceforth it is just for fashion not that negative feelings I have nursed. I am happy with the way I am now and that I can stay much younger than all of you 🤣🤣🤣

Let me stay forever young.

I hope this post meets you well. Blessed Monday and beautiful new week to us all.