Most of us have the experience of thinking about something we have done, and cringing, wondering how we could have embarrassed ourselves so much. Often when we think about these things from the past, it means there is a lesson yet to be learned.
Sometimes the lesson is simply that we’re still hiding away or denying part of ourselves. We’d like to pretend that those cringey moments weren’t a reflection of who we are.
To address this, we might start affirming to ourselves that we are loved. We might say “I love myself despite my flaws.”
But that means we are still denying love to that part of ourselves - the part which perhaps needs it the most. So we might say “I love myself including my flaws.”
Then that means that we’re still thinking of aspects of ourselves as flawed, rather than being steps in a process, or ‘happy accidents’ which form part of the complete picture. So perhaps we will say “I love myself, including those parts of myself I want to deny.”
Still, why are we affirming that there are parts of ourselves that we want to deny - establishing that we continue to deny those parts? We might simply say the words “I love myself,” with no conditions or caveats.
Finally, we no longer need to affirm, because what is known is not spoken.
► Listen on DSound
► Listen from source (IPFS)