I see very marked lately that many people in relationships are separating affection from passion in order to avoid feeling hurt.
"If I live affection and passion with the same person, I will most likely suffer...". So they separate the two experiences while pathologically they hope that there is harmony and "we understand each other".
Loving and protecting yourself at the same time is not a combination that allows relationships to thrive, making it work involves taking risks, actually loving someone is an adult affair.
This scenario is frequent; "I love her or I love him and I am willing to help him in whatever he needs but I do not desire him" and meanwhile they seek to make themselves desired by someone else, by the way they make themselves desired by those they know that their level of affection is not that high (only desire).
A typical seducer usually says "what we have is only sex, don't fall in love", this way he hides his panic for being involved in the affection that at the same time makes him responsible for giving the caresses that he never gave and that he never received at home.
Today I combine my affection and my passion just as I embrace the history in which the pain marked the life of the couples of my family. Today I assume the courage to let go of the one whose passion is no longer reparable in what is ours.