Hello dear hive community! 😉
¡Hola querida comunidad de hive! 😉
Love is a feeling that all human beings experience, it is a lively affection that can be felt towards another living being or even towards an object. However, love manifests itself in different ways or rather in different languages that I would like to share with you on this occasion, what they are, how to know them and what their importance is.
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God has left us a commandment, he says to love our neighbour as ourselves, but how can we love others if we do not love ourselves? That is why the first love we should feel is towards ourselves and that is where that nice feeling towards others will come from, because unfortunately we cannot give what we do not have. That is where the importance of feeling that self-love, respect and admiration for the person that is you lies.
Now, there are ways in which people receive and give love, according to Chapman (2009) he calls it 5 love languages, which is about the different ways in which we can show this beautiful affection, because we do not all have the same styles and it is extremely important in relationships with our family, friends and obviously with our partner, so that these relationships can be given in the best way. That is why it is essential that we all know our own love language and that of our loved ones, but what are these five love languages?
The first of these is Words of affirmation and it is that we express our affection with nice words, compliments, congratulations, politeness, kindness or even humility. Most of the time these are words that we say without thinking and that can have a great effect on people whose main language is this. That is why we must be very careful with the words that come out of our mouth, because these can be a blessing or a curse; people whose predominant language is words of affirmation, short and forceful phrases are of great importance, saying things like I love you, how good you look today or that food was delicious, will undoubtedly make them very happy.
We also have Quality Time, this language has been greatly affected by the fast-paced world we are living in, our daily occupations absorb us so much that we forget to share with our loved ones. Investing time with these people is not so much about the act or the place, but about enjoyment and quality, that is to say, without telephones, distractions or rushing; the main objective is to share, because a relationship in which we do not dedicate time for conversation simply does not exist. People whose predominant language is quality time are always the ones who invite you out, like to go out to eat, have a coffee or visit you often.
The third language is Gifts, and it may seem vain but the reality is that those who have this language do not care about the cost of the gift, but the gesture. For these people gifts symbolise a very meaningful expression of love and they will be happy with simple things like a candy, chocolate, a letter, a flower and so on.
The next language is Acts of Service, which is about pleasing a person by serving them or doing them a favour, which can be rewarding for a person. Some acts of service can be cooking, cleaning, doing some chores or moving to a far away place, in other words, events that can bring a smile to someone's face.
The last of these is Physical Contact, this is the simplest language and has been used since time immemorial. Hugging, kissing, caressing, touching and even sexual relations are direct ways of expressing and receiving love, especially in the case of couples; besides, feeling skin-to-skin contact secretes hormones in our body, even when we do not realise it. It is important to note that for some people, physical contact can bring them security and therefore happiness.
These are the languages of love, it is essential to highlight that a person can have one or more languages, but with one that predominates more than the other. For example, my main language is Gifts, with that I like to give and receive love, the second is Quality time and the third is words of affirmation, but how did I discover it? Well, since I was a teenager I like to receive gifts, I am one of those people who still have things that were given to me when I was a teenager and when something that was given to me is damaged or lost it makes me very sad.
I also love going out, visiting people, parties and sharing Christmas or holiday time; quality time. I'm the one who always tells my friends let's go for a drink or a hot dog. Lastly, when I do something I like to get a word in edgeways, or when I dress up differently and I honestly like compliments, obviously with respect..
Ya para despedirme me gustaría peguntar ¿Conoces tu lenguaje del amor? ¿Coincidimos en alguno? ¿Habías escuchado los cinco lenguajes del amor antes de esta publicación? Me encantaría poder leer sus respuestas en los comentarios, así como su opinión sobre este post.
To say goodbye, I would like to ask: Do you know your love language, do we agree on any of them, had you heard the five love languages before this post? I would love to read your answers in the comments, as well as your opinion on this post.
Traductor Deepl
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