Cuando pasamos por un duelo motivado a una ruptura amorosa, nos afecta tanto como si el causante de nuestro dolor hubiera fallecido o no, aunque es posible si la ruptura no fue en buenos términos que en medio de todo ello deseemos que pase.Al enamorarnos siempre tendemos a idealizar y mentira no es, por más seguros de sí mismos que seamos el amor nos pone a volar en las nubes y al decepcionarnos la caida es en picada (fuerte) y nos cuesta levantarnos.
Pero ¿cómo enfrentamos este duelo? depende de ti, todas las rupturas tienen consecuencias y hay dolor, pero la fuerza con la que te golpee este dependerá de ti, de tu valentía, se vale llorar y seguro llorarás bastante, debe ser así porque hay que drenar pero epalee no podemos quedarnos en ese estado de martires, hay que seguir adelante.¿Pero cómo hago si aun hay amor? oye, espero que te ames mas a ti misma porque la vida sigue, llena tu vida de color, refugiate en la gente que te ama sinceramente (hijos, padres, amigos), ocupa tu mente en cosas positivas como el trabajo, de repente dejaste de lado algo importante, puedes retomarlo, regalate ese tiempo, aprovechalo y sigue adelante.
Hey friends, welcome to my space in Hive, full of anecdotes, reflections, a touch of nature and all my love to write, these days I have been listening to songs by Mile Cyrus, in particular the song flowers which my daughter loves but I had not stopped to analyze it and watch her video until I did it this weekend and I fell in love with the lyrics of this song, it made me reflect among other things on how people can handle grief, especially women because it is not only subject to a physical loss, it encompasses the emotional state to which we are subject when facing a loss, whether physical or not.
When we go through a grief caused by a love breakup, it affects us as much as if the cause of our pain had died or not, although it is possible if the breakup was not on good terms that in the midst of it all we wish it would pass, when we fall in love we always tend to idealize and it is not a lie, no matter how self-confident we are, love makes us fly in the clouds and when we are disappointed the fall is steep and we find it hard to get up.
But how do we face this grief? It depends on you, all breakups have consequences and there is pain, but the strength with which you hit this will depend on you, on your courage, it is worth crying and sure you will cry a lot, it must be so because you have to drain but epalee we can not stay in that state of martyrs, we must move forward. But how do I do if there is still love? hey, I hope you love yourself more because life goes on, fill your life with color, take refuge in the people who love you sincerely (children, parents, friends), occupy your mind in positive things like work, suddenly you left aside something important, you can take it up again, give yourself that time, take advantage of it and move forward.
La edad, madurez, influye mucho en como afrontamos un duelo amoroso, recuerdo mi primera decepción amorosa, era mas jóven, más insegura, miro mi comportamiento en ese entonces y me río, los jóvenes hacemos locuras por amor. Al madurar miramos las cosas diferentes, la mayoría de las mujeres hoy día son empoderadas, independientes, aman intensamente pero también se ponen en primer plano, por ello enfrentan la vida luego de un duelo amoroso porque no es el fin del mundo.
Cuando tenemos hijos, el dolor es más fuerte porque ellos sufren también y seguramente debemos continuar viendo al centro de nuestra desdicha pero ni modo la vida sigue, el se lo pierde y no tu. Ni se te ocurra usar ropa oscura, al contrario usa color que te alegre la vida, te mantenga optimista, valorate a ti misma, sonríe aunque no tengas ganas.Y como dicen por ahí: Primero muerta que desarreglada. Amor, desamor, algunas veces van de la mano, nada es eterno en esta vida, lo mejor de ser humanos es esa capacidad de amar, sonríe que la vida está llena de oportunidades, te mereces lo mejor y vales mucho, abrazate, amate, hasta la próxima, seguimos leyéndonos.
I remember my first love disappointment, I was younger, more insecure, I look at my behavior back then and I laugh, young people do crazy things for love. As we mature we look at things differently, most women today are empowered, independent, they love intensely but they also put themselves in the foreground, that is why they face life after a love mourning because it is not the end of the world.
When we have children, the pain is stronger because they suffer too and surely we must continue to see the center of our misfortune but anyway life goes on, he misses it and not you. Don't even think of wearing dark clothes, on the contrary, wear colors that cheer you up, keep you optimistic, value yourself, smile even if you don't feel like it, and as they say: First dead is better than messy. Love, heartbreak, sometimes go hand in hand, nothing is eternal in this life, the best thing about being human is the ability to love, smile, life is full of opportunities, you deserve the best and you are worth a lot, hug yourself, love yourself, until next time, we keep reading each other
