You show a lot of wisdom in this regard at such a young age.

Ironically while my husband and I rarely argue if I apologise it will make things worse and he'll use it to further attack me. I have to either just step back and let him calm down then communicate as if nothing ever happened. Sometimes I'll get an apology, but rarely, because he struggles to admit being at fault in any way. It comes from his childhood and his father being that way. I can only apologise for mistakes when he is in a good frame of mind and we can then discuss the tougher things we need to.

So I guess what I'm saying is that everyone is different and relationships need to learn and evolve from that. It's not always easy, but when you care about each other it's worth the effort.