[Esp-Eng] Iniciativa: Tú debieras, tú deberías o tú debiste. ☺❤ Initiative: You should have, you should have or you should have

We are reasonable, judicious people, with a sense of belonging and responsibility for our actions, able to mediate and give our opinion, but sometimes we find people who think differently and like to impose, yes as it sounds to impose and is where those nice questions arise: You should, you should or you should have, that sometimes falls heavy. It is where we can say that saying: each head is a world of its own. Since they love us to do what they want us to do regardless of our decision, so many things.

A la hora de tomar decisiones siempre hay muchos que opinan y me chocan, molestan, que tomen decisión por mi, ya que considero en la sana disposición de tomar mis propias decisiones y que vengas otros a decir lo que se va hacer o dejar de hacer. Creo que si hay una buena relación de amigos y parejas habrá esa sana comunicación efectiva sin barreras o malos entendidos. A la verdad siempre encontramos opiniones de personas con esas palabras tu debiste, tu deberías, pero depende de nosotros si le damos cuerda a la situación, somo realista, humanos, con sentimientos y sobre todo autentico en todo, solamente estar con buena actitud de decir las cosas que nos nos agrada. Siempre en el lugar de trabajo hay personas así, con una autoridad sin dar oportunidad de escuchar, es donde debemos de ser mas inteligentes que ellos y responder con palabras sabias que toque el corazon y alegue esa decisión que no queremos escuchar o esa imposición.

When it comes to making decisions there are always many who give their opinion and I am shocked, annoyed, that they make decisions for me, since I consider myself in the healthy disposition to make my own decisions and that others come to tell me what to do or not to do. I believe that if there is a good relationship between friends and partners there will be a healthy and effective communication without barriers or misunderstandings. To the truth we always find opinions of people with those words you should, you should, but it depends on us if we give the situation, we are realistic, human, with feelings and above all authentic in everything, just be with a good attitude to say the things that we like. Always in the workplace there are people like that, with an authority without giving a chance to listen, is where we must be smarter than them and respond with wise words that touch the heart and plead that decision that we do not want to hear or that imposition.

Como mujer, esposa, mamá hay que tener siempre una carta baja la manga, me refiero que trato en lo posible de nos escuchar, ignorar y si esta muy fuerte la situación, hablo con esa firmeza, tratando de ser escuchada y que se cambie la situación, mediar. Claro es difícil, porque a veces suceden de repente y pronunciamos palabra que afectaría a otros en ves de pensar primero y ser ese canal de mediación. En mi caso, siempre me dices esas palabras y yo como nunca lanzo una palabra que cambie la perspectiva de la otra persona. Claro mi voz es fuerte, que a veces suena como que estoy brava pero no es así y tan solo la mirada lo dice todo y se frena esa imposiciones, porque que ya somos personas pensante y con una gran inteligencia y en este mundo lamentablemente nos vamos a conseguir con personas así.

As a woman, wife, mother, you always have to have a card up your sleeve, I mean that I try as much as possible to listen, ignore and if the situation is very strong, I speak with that firmness, trying to be heard and to change the situation, to mediate. Of course it is difficult, because sometimes they happen suddenly and we pronounce words that would affect others instead of thinking first and being that mediation channel. In my case, you always say those words to me and I never say a word that would change the other person's perspective. Of course my voice is loud, sometimes it sounds like I am angry but it is not like that and just the look says it all and that impositions are stopped, because we are already thinking people with a great intelligence and in this world unfortunately we are going to get people like that.

Soy una persona muy observadora y receptiva. Y cuando vienes estas preguntas siempre le dijo: Tu piensas como yo, soy yo la que debo tomar la decisión. Tratando en lo mas razonable de no levantar mi voz y que sea escuchada, como siempre hay que mediar y buscar la solución. Soy muy sentimental y a veces estas situaciones de imposición me ponen a llorar y me sano cuando lo dijo. En la relación de pareja siempre debe de haber esa igualdad, respeto, comunicación, afecto y alegrarnos por el triunfo de uno de nosotros o de la familia. Imponer no es la clave sino el amor y bienestar emocional que tengamos. Hay que disfrutar lo mas posible y dejar esas palabras que a veces cae mal, claro esta, hay que saber manejarlo y sacarle provecho, tan solo vivir en armonía.

I am a very observant and receptive person. And when you come these questions I always said: You think like me, I am the one who must make the decision. Trying in the most reasonable not to raise my voice and to be heard, as always it is necessary to mediate and to look for the solution. I am very sentimental and sometimes these situations of imposition make me cry and I heal when he said it. In a couple's relationship there should always be equality, respect, communication, affection and be happy for the triumph of one of us or of the family. Imposing is not the key but the love and emotional well being that we have. We must enjoy as much as possible and leave those words that sometimes fall badly, of course, you have to know how to handle it and take advantage of it, just live in harmony.