I am so glad i used a translator to read this post because it is definitely something that should not be missed.
The way u talk about breaking away from emotional blackmail and choosing yourself is really powerful. It makes me think about how many people are just living their lives for others without even realizing it.

Since i found this so inspiring i wanted to drop a full english translation summary here for others who might not speak the language. I think it is too important to let a language barrier get in the way of such a raw and honest story.

English Summary of the Post:(with help of Ai)

The Turning Point: The author reflects on December 2021 as the moment she decided to take the definitive course of her life. She stopped making excuses and decided to live without "pettiness" toward herself.
A Childhood of Fear: She describes growing up in a state of constant "terror" and over-expectation. This was mainly due to a difficult relationship with her mother that conditioned how she interacted with everyone else.
The Struggle: Her adolescence was a mix of trying to do what a "young girl should do" while dealing with disappointment, depressive episodes, and a contained rage that almost ruined her life. She felt she was living her mother's designs rather than her own.
Breaking the Pattern: Becoming a mother herself and meeting a few "irreplaceable" people helped her break the cycle of Imposter Syndrome. She decided that being authentic to herself was worth much more than the emotional blackmail of third parties.

The Autumn Analogy: She uses a beautiful metaphor of autumn trees shedding their leaves to show how nature constantly renews itself. Sometimes these changes are visible to everyone and sometimes they happen after a fundamental "click" inside.

A Call to Identity: She ends with a powerful message to anyone living under the "emotional terror" or guilt assigned by others. Her advice is to always choose yourself regardless of the outcome because you cannot build anything without an individual identity.

It is a beautiful series of analogies with the autumn trees. Thanks for sharing your heart and your journey with us. It really proves that we all have the power to change our course if we are brave enough to try. I hope this translation helps more people connect with your message. Hugs.