Hola, linda comunidad, como estan hoy? espero que todos esten muy bien. Hoy les vengo a hablar de como poco a poco supere uno de mis tantos traumas en la vida y como mi pareja me ayudo a hacerlo, si se pueden sanar los traumas del pasado, solo que con muchas paciencia con uno mismo y apoyo de tus seres queridos.
Hace 10 años estuve en una relacion totalmente abusiva, llena de golpes, gritos, psicoterror, amenazas, violaciones, etc. Me costo demasiado salir de ese hombre pero al final pude, bueno "pude", aun me acosa pero bueno, eso es otro tema para otro post, el punto es que con todo y lo que he tenido encima, un dia logre superar uno de mis traumas que era bañarme con mi pareja.
Para muchas personas en el mundo es algo totalmente normal darse duchas con su pareja, es relajant, divertido, intimo y sensual, pero en mi caso, no lo era, ya que una vez recibi un abuso en un baño y desde entonces si un hombre tan siquiera se acercaba al baño en donde yo estaba, entraba en panico y me ponia a llorar.
Mi pareja ha sido el mejor de todos y con su paciencia y amor, logre superarlo, un dia llegamos de la calle y teniamos demasiado calor, en mi ciudad Maracaibo, hace un sol tremendo y el calor es espantoso, asi que decidimos bañarnos, yo tome mi toalla, para irme al otro baño y dejarlo a el en el otro, y cuando ya me iba a salir el me dijo "quieres tratar de bañarte conmigo?", yo quede ahi fria sin moverme, no sabia que responder, pero entonces en ese momento trate de recordar como el durante todo el tiempo de nuestra relacion me ha tratado con tanto amor y pense "tal vez no me haga daño", asi que lo intente, me quite la ropa temblando y comence a entrar en la ducha con el, poco a poco, el sostuvo mi mano todo el tiempo y me decia "tranquila, lo estas logrando" y me sonreia, luego abrrio el grifo de la ducha y dejo que me cayera un poco de agua y me dijo "ves? ya pudiste", yo estaba temblando y lo abrace mientras el acariciaba mi cabello y espalda y yo lloraba y me di cuenta de que no, el no me iba a hacer ningun daño y no lo hizo y desde entonces, nos hemos podido dar unas cuantas duchas juntos y nos reimos ahora juntos, bromeando mientras nos bañamos.
Con mucho amor y paciencia, la persona correcta te ayudara a superar y sanar tus traumas y miedos y cuando digo la persona correcta no me refiero solo a una pareja, puede ser un familiar, amigo, compañero, etc, hasta un animal podria, todo con mucho amor, no es facil creanme, yo llore mucho ese dia recordando lo que me paso aquella vez en ese baño y no podia creer que volvi a estar en una ducha con un hombre de nuevo y fue totalmente lo opuesto a lo que me paso.
Espero que esta historia les sirva un poco en su proceso, si se puede, dificil? si, imposible? no, sigan adelante que lo van a lograr.
Un abrazo a todos y hasta la proxima.
Overcoming traumas from the past.
Hello, beautiful community, how are you today? I hope that everybody are very well. Today I come to talk about how little by little I overcome one of my many traumas in life and how my partner helped me to do it, if past traumas can be healed, only with a lot of patience with yourself and support from your loved ones. dear ones
10 years ago I was in a totally abusive relationship, full of beatings, yelling, psychoterror, threats, rape, etc. It took me too long to get out of that man but in the end I was able, well "I was able to", he still harasses me but hey, that's another topic for another post, the point is that with everything and what I've had on top of me, one day I managed to overcome one of my traumas, which was bathing with my partner.
For many people in the world it is completely normal to take showers with their partner, it is relaxing, fun, intimate and sensual, but in my case, it was not, since once I was abused in a bathroom and since then if a man He didn't even come close to the bathroom where I was, he would panic and start crying.
My partner has been the best of all and with his patience and love, I managed to overcome it, one day we came home from the street and we were too hot, in my city Maracaibo, the sun is tremendous and the heat is terrible, so we decided to bathe, I I took my towel, to go to the other bathroom and leave him in the other, and when I was about to leave he said "do you want to try to bathe with me?", I stayed there cold without moving, I didn't know what to answer, but then At that moment I tried to remember how he treated me with so much love throughout our relationship and I thought "maybe he won't hurt me", so I tried, I took off my clothes trembling and started to get into the shower with Little by little, he held my hand the whole time and told me "calm down, you're doing it" and smiled at me, then he turned on the shower faucet and let a little water fall on me and said "see? now you could", I was trembling and I hugged him while he caressed my hair and back and I cried and realized that no, he was not going to do me any harm and he did not and since then, we have been able to take a few showers together and we laugh now together, joking while we bathe.
With a lot of love and patience, the right person will help you overcome and heal your traumas and fears and when I say the right person I don't just mean a couple, it can be a family member, friend, partner, etc., even an animal could, everything With a lot of love, it's not easy, believe me, I cried a lot that day remembering what happened to me that time in that bathroom and I couldn't believe that I was in a shower with a man again and it was totally the opposite of what happened to me .
I hope this story helps you a bit in your process, if possible, difficult? yes, impossible? No, keep going, you're going to make it.
A hug to everyone and see you next time.