Si el amor propio del que mucho decimos tener, querer, pero como que se esta perdiendo, extinguiendo, el amor propio es el que sentimos por nosotros mismos, de vernos bien, sentirnos bien, que primero somos nosotros que los demás.
Digo esto porque últimamente se han visto muchos casos donde parejas que terminan, por ciertas diferencias, tal vez la crisis, el desempleo de uno de los dos, de las edades, y otros, pero que difícilmente aceptan que la relación se acabo, se termino.
Aunque no son todas por ejemplo las edades, cuando el hombre que es en la mayoría son de mas edad que si les llevan 10, 15, 20 años o mas a su pareja, muchos duran pero otros no.
Se de un caso de una amiga del liceo, que se enamoro pero tanto de un hombre mucho mayor que ella, que tal vez no seria el caso de la edad, sino que también era casado, pero a la final el hombre se divorcio, y se quedo con mi amiga, hoy en dia ya tienen 2 hijos que son hombres, la familia de ella no le quedo que aceptar al hombre como la pareja de mi amiga y todos felices. Ya tienen mas de 25 años juntos.
Pero cuando es el hombre que se enamora de una chica joven, esta quizás lo ve como una salida fácil primero de su casa, luego que el hombre le va dar una vida diferente, se casan o no, pero luego la mujer se da cuenta que sigue siendo joven, entonces dice que se quiere separar, pero el hombre no acepta, se separan si, pero le queda eso en la cabeza, tanto que han acabado mal, en algo trágico.
Como paso hace poco de un hombre de 50 años en adelante y la pareja la mujer estaba en los 30, era enfermera, no quería mas nada con su pareja, este le prendió candela, paso días agonizando hasta que no pudo mas y falleció. Donde esta el amor propio de este hombre para hacer esto, no pensó en que al hacer esto también se ganaría el odio de por vida de su hijo, de ambos, que su papa, matara a su mama. Aquí el amor propio se perdió, porque no aceptar que la relación no puede seguir, mas teniendo un hijo.
Así también hay mujeres que no aceptan que la pareja no la quiere mas que en su mayoría sabemos porque le gusto otra, entonces vienen las agresiones de parte de la mujer en este caso, de querer hacer algo en contra de quien fue su pareja.
Mi caso, mi esposo se fue, el puso miles de excusas una de ellas que yo era bruja jajaja, yo le respondí: de haber sido bruja, hubiese escogido algo mejor, ja ja.. No puedo negar que si pega, duele, pero no yo soy primero, si me costo levantarme, pero no porque me haya caído, no si que los primero días fueron así, pero que tenia muchas cosas por seguir la vida y no perderla llorando, ir a rogarle que nunca lo hice. No hice tal escándalo tampoco, mi familia tenia que saberlo se lo dije.
Pero lo mas importante era que yo valía, yo me quería, tenia mi trabajo aun, tenia lo mas bello mis hijos, mi casa propia, familia que me apoyaba, amigos que no me abandonaron y mi amor propio. También tener a Dios presente en todo.
Y luego me encontré esta plataforma, con la cual paso mucho tiempo, compartiendo, me ayuda mucho a no pensar en ese pasado.
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La foto que es de mi propiedad fue tomada con mi celular Samsung Galaxy A16.
Contenido propio original traducido con la app DeepL.
If the self-esteem that we say we have and want is somehow being lost, extinguished, self-esteem is what we feel for ourselves, seeing ourselves well, feeling good, that we come before others.
I say this because lately there have been many cases where couples break up due to certain differences, perhaps a crisis, unemployment of one of the two, age differences, and others, but they find it difficult to accept that the relationship is over, finished.
Although it is not always the case, for example, when the man is older than his partner by 10, 15, 20 years or more, many relationships last, but others do not.
I know of a case of a friend from high school who fell in love with a man much older than her. Perhaps it wasn't just the age difference, but also the fact that he was married. In the end, the man got divorced and stayed with my friend. Today they have two sons, and her family had no choice but to accept the man as my friend's partner, and everyone is happy. They have been together for over 25 years.
But when it is the man who falls in love with a young girl, she may see it as an easy way out of her home at first, thinking that the man will give her a different life, whether they get married or not. But then the woman realizes that she is still young, so she says she wants to separate, but the man does not accept it. They do separate, but it stays in his head, so much so that they have ended badly, in something tragic.
This happened recently to a man in his 50s and his partner, a woman in her 30s who was a nurse. She wanted nothing more to do with her partner, so he set her on fire. She spent days in agony until she could take no more and died. Where was this man's self-respect to do this? Didn't he think that by doing this he would also earn the lifelong hatred of his son, of both of them, that his father would kill his mother? Here, self-respect was lost because she couldn't accept that the relationship couldn't continue, even though they had a child.
There are also women who cannot accept that their partner no longer loves them, and most of us know that it is because he likes someone else. Then the woman becomes aggressive, in this case, wanting to do something against her former partner.
In my case, my husband left, he made thousands of excuses, one of them being that I was a witch, ha ha ha, I replied: if I had been a witch, I would have chosen something better, ha ha.. I can't deny that it hurts when he hits me, but I'm not the first one. It was hard to get up, but not because I fell. No, the first few days were like that, but I had a lot of things to do to get on with my life and not waste it crying, begging him to come back, which I never did. I didn't make a big scene either. My family had to know, so I told them.
But the most important thing was that I was worth it, I loved myself, I still had my job, I had the most beautiful thing, my children, my own home, a family that supported me, friends who didn't abandon me, and my self-esteem. Also, having God present in everything.
And then I found this platform, where I spend a lot of time sharing. It really helps me not to think about the past.
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The photo, which is my property, was taken with my Samsung Galaxy A16 cell phone.
Original content translated with the DeepL app.