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While I was growing up, I used to hear alot of people say
" sticks and stones may break my bones but words can not hurt so deep"
initially I didn't understand what they meant by this, I even found this statement very funny but gradually I began to grasp the true meaning of it and subconsciously I believed what they said.
The people around me said it was better for them to be insulted and injured verbally than for anything to hurt them and give physical wounds, I didn't know what their reason was and honestly I didn't care but slowly I found myself making that statement my truth, it became so bad that I tolerated alot of self assassinating, demoralizing and despicable words from people both strangers, friends and foes because I felt it didn't do anything or affect me in any way but that was a lie, a lie that I told myself for a long time, a lie that I was trying to maintain and hide hoping I was doing the right thing.
The gospel truth is that words do more than pass information, words go as far as exposing how we see ourselves and when we let in negative words from whoever unconsciously we begin to manifest those words and they soon become our reality.
This is the truth that I denied and refused to accept, the one I kept hiding from.
Words cut deeper than sticks and stones, words can destroy they are so powerful.
Sticks and stones on the other hand may cause physical damage, wounds that can heal within a short period of time and leave scars that may soon be forgotten and even if you ever remember the incident you don't feel the pain from the wound any more so whether you're intentional about the wound by seeking medical attention or not it is natural for the wound to heal even without your consent or approval, you don't even have to do anything, just sit back and watch the wounds close up but if words cut, they give emotional wounds, wounds that you cannot see but the hurt it felt deeper than a physical one and the downside to this is that it never heals itself as long as you've not consciously decided to let the wound heal it stays fresh in the mind and every time you're reminded the hurt stings so bad like a fresh cut.
It is like an emotional rollercoaster, a cycle that requires intentionality to be broken.
When I became more aware of this truth, I began to unlearn and adjust to it, I knew that all the years I wasted can not be gotten back but it is never too late to start again NEVER!!
I started distancing myself from negativity especially words, it was never difficult to identify a negative person because the words they speak defines them, says alot about how they see themselves and others around them.
Now I make sure to address negative words and distance my self from such person, no matter the position they hold in my life, it took me alot of work to get to the mental state I'm at right now and I won't trade it for anything, I just wish them well and hope they realize the consequence of negative words because it is grave.
To as many people that are in the position I was in, I want you to know that the peace you seek is within you, words can destroy a person's self worth, something as fragile as words should not be used with such carelessness, we have to be intentional about the kinds of words we digest into our minds because they shape how our lives turn out.
I won't stop preaching untill we realize the need to turn down negative words.
Thank you for staying with me up till this point, it means alot❤️
I hope you find this helpful.
Content is entirely mine but images were sourced.