Of course, they should probably say - but that's a fine line, so long as you're being safe, where's the harm? Unless, of course - you fall in love, and that's a whole different story. The '80's were such a traumatic time for those who had friends that died of it. I have a friend with HIV who's now married and lives a full life - that wasn't possible back then when they knew nothing about it. My husband lived through that time in circles where a lot of his friends had it - it still haunts him a lot actually. Sounds like an interesting little read.