Someone has asked me to be his friend and confidant before. The request was genuine and heart-touching. I couldn't grant his request. He was married. The last thing I wanted to do was try to take the place of his family. I never like the idea of getting close to someone married. So I said no.
This evening, someone asked me to be his friend and confidant. It brought all the memories back. I said ok. He is not married neither is he dating. I didn't see any harm in being his friend. What he wanted was someone he could call and talk to you over the phone. And probably sit out and share his thoughts.
Earlier today, my neighbor was in my room talking to me about his dreams, aspirations, and why he acted the way he did. I noticed he was longing for someone to talk to about these things. At that moment, there was no one, he had recently broken up with his fiancee, so I could tell he missed sharing those things with her. A few minutes later, he told me, they were back together. I was happy for them. Most especially for him, because he got his friend and confidant back.
The thing is these three instances are making me realize that lots of folks are lonely. They want to have people to share everything that is rumbling in their heads with. Some find someone, others don't. The ones who don't could be the ones who are battling depression and suicidal thoughts.
The whole mixed-up is the tendency to always want someone for sexual preferences. The idea that once you start talking to someone, you are suddenly in a romantic relationship is the reason people can't find friends. This is obvious with friendship built with the opposite sex.
This shouldn't be so. We should have people whom we like and can spend time together, talking on and on about everything and anything. We should have people who know us very much, and we don't have sexual attraction.
Do you think, that is possible in this time and age?