[ESP-ING]] Soltar para crecer

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Life often tests us, and that is when we must take the step to let go. When I talk about this, I may be referring to relationships, situations, or emotions that hurt us, that may be toxic in some way. but it is difficult to decide to let go. We often cling to these people, emotions, or situations, hurting ourselves and perhaps those around us without even realising what we are doing, because we see things from our perspective and not from that of others.

Learning to let go is an act of self-love, but it has to come from our decision to want to do it, to learn to say if I want something new and I'm going to do it to improve myself. I think routine always kills things, and bad decisions often cause us to follow a cycle of harmful actions, but letting go doesn't depend on anyone else, it only depends on you, on ourselves.

I recently met a guy with many problems in all aspects of his life, but he is not the type of person who usually recognises his mistakes. He had to hit rock bottom to realise that something had to change in his life, but the first thing he had to do was recognise what was wrong with him so that he could begin to change. I think it is not an easy path for him because he has many things to remedy. Seeing his case, I thought he needed to let go, but how? So, I decided to write this post to talk about three necessary things we must do to let go.

1.- The first thing is to recognise where we went wrong. It is okay to feel pain and self-pity for ourselves. It is not good to be hard on ourselves or criticise ourselves. It is a process that we will gradually overcome.

2.- The second thing is that we have to see what is really happening to us. Perhaps we could make a list of all the situations in our lives that are affecting us and put them in order of priority, see what is affecting us the most and start there to improve those aspects one by one. It won't happen overnight, but every day a little bit becomes an improvement.

3.- The third thing is to seek help and not shut ourselves off in our own opinions. It could be a professional, such as a psychologist, who can give us the tools to achieve our goals. It could also be someone close to us, such as a friend who can help us, even if it is just by listening, or support groups. Many people seek spiritual help and can experience great changes. By talking to others, we can see different points of view and solutions that we may not be seeing ourselves.

I have certainly learned that letting go is not easy; it can even be painful, but it is a path we must take to improve and heal ourselves, starting with self-love. I hope this young man can find the peace he so longs for and let go of what has hurt him so much. One of the most important things I feel he needs to let go of and work on is pride. It is a daily task he must undertake, The important thing is that he already recognises it.