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I realized I was asexual back in 2021 or 2022. I had no idea how difficult dating as an asexual would be until I met this guy back in 2022.
My folks wanted takeout, so I called the place to put the order in and pick it up. I couldn’t get anyone, so I went in person to place the order.
This guy wanted to talk to me. I thought he was being friendly. To add another flag on the play, I’m also autistic, so I’m oblivious to flirting when it’s subtle.
I hate giving my phone number to strangers. Only people I know personally or I’ve seen enough of. A YouTuber local to me fits “someone ‘ve seen” as an example.
I thought he would be a wholesome guy until one night, after not hearing from him, calls me in the middle of the night, adamant that I come to his house. My mom told me that when a guy wants you at his house in the middle of the night, it’s a booty call, aka he wants sex. I forgot because I was still in high school when my mom told me.
He had to dumb it down. That’s when he told me he wanted to have sex with me. When I barely knew him. Do allosexual people immediately want to have sex with someone they JUST met? No coffee date to get to know each other, to see if you’re compatible? e.g., wanting kids. That’s something you should settle before you date. None of that, just hoping straight into bed? I stopped talking to him after that.
A sandwich artist at Subway asked me inappropriately if I've e had sex. When I said “no,” he looked at me like I had 2 heads.
Another time, I thought a train was coming; only for it to stop, this guy flagged me to ask for my phone number. Strange. When I told him I didn’t want sexual relationships, he looked at me like my skin turned green.
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