Parents always wish the best for their children; among other things, a decent education is what they most want for them. Although a better future is thought to start with a strong education, from a private or public school where can we acquire this kind of knowledge?
Personally, I honestly do not think the school should be an issue. Whether we put our children in a private or public school, they will meet other children who are either good or bad because these kinds of people are everywhere!
They are lucky if we can send them to private schools because of better quality of teachers, facilities and system in general. However, our focus as parents should be on our children NOT on the school. Whichever school we send them to, if our children are problematic, then we have a problem.
Here are some guides you might want to consider:
1.FEEL THEM
As much as possible, every time our children arrive from school, let us try to ask them how their classes went. Questions like “What happened in school today? Or, "What made you happy today?” and other questions of some sort will enable them to open up about their in school or about how they feel in general. That is an opportunity for us too to observe if something bothered them for the day, and as we do this often, we can observe their daily progress not just as a student but as a child who is supposed to be happy and safe with his/her childhood and nothing else. Their answers should also be a clue for us how to adjust with the behavior they show us.
2.TRAIN THEM WHILE YOUNG
If we can afford, let us allow them to try what they want to try and not be too protective. Expose them and allow them to experience different things. The goal for this is to find out which among all the things they have tried will spark their interest, then support them to be a champion in that field. Imagine the athletes who have won numerous awards in different competitions. Usually, they are trained as early as 7 years old until they are ready to achieve their goals.
3.ALLOW THEM TO BE THEMSELVES
Let us not impose on them what we want for them. Rather, allow them to find their passion. Imposing is so common among some parents, believing that we know what is best for our children. Be reminded that what we wish for our children may not necessarily be the best for them. For example, fathers usually want their sons to love basketball, but not all young boys love basketball. Teachers teach us math and physics formulas, but we always forget because we are not interested in numbers. No matter how we force our children to love something, if their interest is not there, they will not shine. So, let us allow them to find whatever will make them express their authentic selves.
Let us not be harsh to our children. Remember, we were once like them. Our experiences during our childhood should be our teachers and we must apply our learnings now to the best interest of our children.
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