If there's one thing a lot of people are already pretty good at, it's soaking up blame. And I blame the culture and society and the world system for this kind of behavior.
Someone snaps at us and we take it up as being our own fault. They say be responsible and blame yourself for how things are going but that's not a fair thing to do all the time because, there sure are some times when truly, it's not your fault for the fuckery.
Just hypothetically speaking but we walk into a room and the temperature dips the second we walk in so we think we brought the temp down with us, after lots of these scenarios it becomes a strong assumption, but not a conscious belief, more of a stance. You're always your own problem mindset is no evidence of being a responsible human being.
What’s more difficult to notice is if the environment itself is set up to trigger that response. There are certain environments and groups of people that by nature can abuse your emotionally, cause you to lose your cool, and start misbehaving. Problem is, people around don't see them pissing you off, they say you having a seemingly unreasonable crash out.
It's just a cruel world and so many people have been misunderstood. Some of have even ended up in jail for this.
By the time that you’re questioning what’s wrong with you, you don’t question what’s wrong with the environment where you are. The self examination becomes a likely source of productivity and reinforces your resolve to continue the cycle while at the same time the examination of the environment right in front of them is left to be the same. So it's a loop of self blame till you have no more self esteem and you're on depression pills.