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There's this particular argument you can get yourself into, so heated that when the argument is over, you don't even know or remember what was pissing you off in the first place. You're defending something you don't even really believe in anymore, but it takes more wisdom and energy to stop arguing than to keep going. The anger is like a driving force that shuts down your intellect and you no longer care where the situation is going.
Anger has a way of clouding your vision and your jefhem. I'm not saying this in the poetic sense, I mean literally. Your brain literally stops certain functions of reasoning. The person you're arguing with becomes a barrier and logic takes a backseat. I was arguing with someone about splitting the bill at a really underwhelming suya spot, of all places, and I was utterly convinced that I was right and I was also at that same moment so convinced I was going to feel silly about it later. When the anger was not there anymore, I was able to see my own foolishness.
I've realized something interesting, when the anger finally goes away, there's more information waiting for you to discover in your own brain, about where you as a person went wrong, about where the other person was wrong and about where the entire argument was about something you two probably wouldn't have even talked about otherwise. You're thinking normal because you have clarity. It's analogous to boiling water.
When you're boiling water, you can't see your reflection until the water calms down. Anger does not make a good problem solver at all and it has never gotten anyone to see further than their own nose.