Today's topic is the art of being alone. In today's world, the thing people fear most is loneliness. But I believe that being alone is a very good thing. Loneliness will make you very strong. Loneliness will teach you everything that the world doesn't teach you these days. When a person is alone, they fully utilize their mind and remember their mistakes, where they did right, and where they did wrong. They learn when to speak, when not to speak, and when to remain silent. All these things are true, which is why being alone is very important for life.
Many people believe that being alone is a kind of illness, but I don't agree. Being alone is a very good thing because when you're alone, you always think about yourself. You don't have to worry about anyone else. Being alone at that time doesn't mean you shouldn't have anyone in your life; it means you can clear your thoughts. You can make your life decisions in solitude. How to fulfill your dreams? How to execute your plans without any disturbance? What things need to be done? All these things can only be done when a person is alone, and all these things are very important to do in life.
But being in complete isolation is also very problematic; it's a kind of illness. Being alone is good, but too much of it—I mean, to an extreme degree. Imagine someone who lives their entire life alone, a 24- or 25-year-old man with no friends, always alone, confined to his room—that's a kind of illness. But being alone for a few days or a few hours is a very good thing. In fact, doctors even say that when you're feeling very frustrated, grab your favorite snacks, put on your favorite movie, and enjoy it alone. Then you'll realize how enjoyable life can be, even alone, and that you can do amazing things by yourself. You can achieve things alone; you don't need anyone else. Solitude teaches you that too.
When we are alone, we hear our inner voice and talk to ourselves. We should talk to ourselves sometimes because when you talk to yourself, you learn a lot about yourself. You realize where you made mistakes, where you should have listened to your inner voice, and where you should have spoken up. And have you noticed that when you work alone, when you stand on your balcony with a cup of tea, or when you sit alone for a while without your phone, your mind is clearest? At that time, you can make very clear decisions. The decisions you make while sitting alone are the most pure and the best. The dreams you have when you're alone are the most honest because you don't ask anyone else for their opinion. You simply talk to yourself.
Mentally strong people are those who are comfortable with themselves. They don't experience the pain of boredom. They are not disturbed by silence, and because they are very strong in their lives, they make life decisions very easily. They don't wait for anyone's validation or seek anyone's opinion. They know that their decision is the final decision and that they are capable of making it. That's why their minds are very sharp. When you learn to be alone, you stop seeking external validation. You stop depending on people for happiness. You start trusting your own decisions. You become emotionally independent. You become confident in your own choices. This changes your life when you embrace solitude.
Many people are afraid of being alone, fearing they will end up lonely. I understand that. But believe me, spending time alone can also teach you a great deal. No matter what you do in life, make sure to set aside one day a week just for yourself, a day when you are completely alone. On that day, cook your favorite meal and watch your favorite movie, and you'll find a sense of peace and contentment that you won't find anywhere else. The key is to embrace solitude. Maintain your friendships, but when you feel like you need a break from life, a break from your phone and other devices, solitude will be your greatest support. Simply put your phone on silent mode and cook while listening to your favorite music, or do whatever you enjoy most, because that's when you'll experience the most joy.
