Hello everyone, it's my first time to post a blog here. It's going two months since my step nephew left us in pain and yet the memories still remain.
June 22,2025 it was the most painful day of our lives when we heard the news about our beloved step nephew passed away due to motorcycle accident in their hometown. When my younger sister told this to my younger brother, I cannot fathom if I would believe it or not. It's like someone splash a cold water in my body. When my sister sent me the picture of him soaked in his blood, that was the time I believed that he was really gone and no longer with his parents. I wanted to cry that time but I controlled my tears to fall down. My brother insinuated to me that I'll be the one who would go to attend his burial since he didn't renew his motorcycle license. The next morning, I didn't hesitate to go there. Luckily, there's a transportation right away. It's four hours ride to reach their hometown. When I was in the car, I felt mixed emotions that I don't understand. When I arrived, few people were there and I saw his mom beside his coffin with teary-eyed. Everyone looked unhappy. While I saw him laid on his coffin, I hide my tears. He was only 18 and turning 19 but this was happened to him. His face changed and I can really see the injury even he embalmed him.
THE PREPARATION
I admire the people in this community, they helped each other when they needed help - they have this Bayanihan or community spirit. Everyone help for the task to done without a return.
My sister captured this photo about his mother hugging him to consoles his son. My sister said that her husband really cried a lot and I felt the heavy in his chest for losing a child. Even there are things his son did that wasn't good, the love of his father remained.
So, the reason why he left this earth was that, her cousins and him get drunk during my sister in-law daughter's son had a birthday party in the resort. Their relatives attend the celebration. They really had bond together at that time - they ate sumptuous food, swam and enjoy the moment, but ofcourse we really don't avoid to bring liquors when there's occasion. According to my sister, my brother in-law sister refrained them not to drink alcohol but still they insisted saying "We'll only drink a little" with his cousins as well. So, when his aunties and my sister leave the resort, his cousins and him were the one who left drinking. But later on, in the late afternoon, this incident was happened. Accordingly, he drove so fast that's the reason he slammed his head in the house (one of the neighborhood where they held the birthday), and the reason that took his life. They even take him to the hospital but he didn't endure the pain.
After what happened, we didn't blame anyone nor ask God why it happened but we ask forgiveness. We just think about of it that his mission was ended even he was taken in a wrong way. On the other hand,this tragedy is a reminder that we need to have have faith more in God and remind our love ones to put him first in every thing we do. Now, I always think of the bond we had even it wasn't good but I appreciate the way he cares for his siblings.
We don't really know when we leave this earth, but the only for sure is that, we are here to live with a purpose, so cherish everything with our family. If we have time, take them to the place which they didn't visit. Always check each other and make sure that they are in good health. Thus, only God who has the control of everything - just cling onto him.
Note: The first picture was edited in Canva